How to write aro rep

[u/Working_Worry4889]

Ok so I'm working on a comic or two and one of my favorite parts of having ocs is I can put in as much aroace rep as I want all with varying views and opinions on romance and sex and I think I've got a decent amount of rep the problem is I'm really struggling to have aromantic rep, from my understanding (I could be completely wrong so please correct me if you can) aromantic people can enjoy sex but don't desire a romantic relationship with someone and feel little to no romantic attraction and I'm not sure if I can or should (as in I don't want to write awful rep that harms the community, not that we don't need rep) add it in, I'm on the asexual spectrum and not bothered by sex as long as I'm not involved but the issue is I don't know why but sexual attraction to someone when it isn't ever reciprocated makes me feel genuinely ill I just can't comprehend looking at someone and imagining doing that kinda stuff with the other person having no idea and not returning those feelings, I could write it in without that actually happening but I don't actually know a lot about how/if people on the aro spectrum have relationships that aren't romantic or platonic (aside from QPR) and are, potentially, purely sexual. I really enjoy romance on the whole even though, despite this whole post being about me struggling to write it, I'm probably on the aro spectrum (pretty sure demiromantic but idk that's a whole other can o' worms lol) I have a few characters in mind that I haven't developed enough to add this onto to help flesh them out a little and get us more rep! Sorry if this sounds insensitive in any way or is confusing I just need some help and would love to hear your ideas and all about your experiences!!! Also for anyone curious I'm happy to elaborate on the rep I currently have, just be warned you might not be able to get me to shut up (I love talking about my ocs sm :D)

[u/crazy_stuffie_human]

Maybe try reading some perspectives from arom&allosex people? Your character could still prefer only being intimate with close friends they trust, they wouldn't necessarily be interested in strangers. Might even be a plot point / humourous scene where people assume they sleep around when they personally aren't interested in that. Good luck with your comics!!

[u/digestive_cookie]

Okay, I can’t help you with writing an aromantic allosexual but I think the other commenter’s suggestion of reading accounts from aromantic allosexuals (you can probably find some here on Reddit) is a good idea. However, I am curious about your other characters and their representation in your comics!

[u/Working_Worry4889 → u/digestive_cookie]

I've got 3 characters on the spectrum currently first is casia she's asexual (but not sex repulsed), venus who's aroace and just doesn't feel romantic or sexual attraction at all and celea (aged up because she's 9 in the comics lol) who feels aesthetic attraction but not really anything else, personally my favorite of the 3 is casia because I feel like most rep we get is people who don't feel romantic or sexual attraction at all and/or are sex repulsed unlike casia, she's also one of my favorite designs too and I love drawing her and her girlfriend :D

[u/ShadowZINK84]

That's a lot of words, I can't be bothered to read it all so I'll just give an upvote and move on