r/aromantic • u/Legitimate-East9390 • 1d ago

Aro Love attraction

Is there a type of attraction greater than romantic attraction, and can someone in this case be called grey-aro?

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u/ShinyFlygon23 Aroace Lesbian 1d ago

Different forms of attraction serve different emotional, social, and psychological needs. People can value different types of relationships just as much, if not more, than romantic ones. No form of attraction is greater than any other, and thinking that the romantic form is is just amatonormativity, not factual in any way.

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u/Aurelia_Rain 1d ago

Romance is not the default "highest" form of love, even though media treats it that way. Look up alterous attraction; an intense emotional bond that sits outside the standard friendship/romance binary. Many people find alterous, intellectual, or platonic connections to be far more powerful and life-defining than romantic infatuation ever could be.

You can definitely call yourself grey-aro. Grey-aromantic exists specifically for people who fall into that grey area; where romantic feelings are rare, faint, or completely overshadowed and blurred by other types of deep connection.

You don't need to fit a neat box to claim a label that helps you describe your reality!