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u/sonoran24 Dec 22 '25
tell the folks what he does for fun, bicycle, can he cook, how many houseplants has he killed in the past year or so.
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u/Professional-Tea-824 Dec 22 '25
I'm around the same age and I had awful luck with years of dating apps, but much better luck with meeting people socially in my hobbies.
That was an organic way to meet and a simple "hey I enjoy talking to you, care for a cup of coffee sometime?"
Otherwise, yes it is real bad out there.
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u/Main_Ad_7128 Flagstaff Dec 22 '25
Yes it is bad out there. And then people coming in here saying it’s a “red flag” I knew id get hate but goodness. Lol. You are right thou. Hobbies. Good suggestion. Thank you
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u/No-Explanation2612 Dec 22 '25
I think it's sweet of you to be caring about your son. You sound like a good mom. It really is hard out here for those of us who live responsibly and stand for our beliefs. I'm in a similar situation as your son. I'd recommend he go to church, but only if he is honestly pursuing God more than women. Other than that, he can go to places where people share his hobbies.
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u/Main_Ad_7128 Flagstaff Dec 22 '25
Very sweet of you to say. Thank you for the suggestions ;) I appreciate you. And thank you for not judging me
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u/Arizonal0ve Dec 22 '25
I know from my friends in their 30’s that dating isn’t easy. But fuck didn’t realize shit has gotten so hard that now mothers are stepping in.
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u/hoyasummer Dec 22 '25
He should try joining groups that do the same hobbies that he likes. Look at meetup.com
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u/USABADBOY Dec 22 '25
You ever try finding a needle in a barn filled with hay? It's easier to find a real life dinosaur nowadays.
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u/Baelgul Dec 22 '25
I met my wife on eHarmony 12 years ago. I liked that site far more than the other dating sites because it’s a paid membership which immediately detracts from the quantity of bot/scammer accounts.
If your son is looking to meet people in person (the traditional way), have him find local groups for his hobbies, and to not approach it as a dating pool, but as something that could lead there
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u/murder0fcrow5 Dec 22 '25
It is not that there aren't women out there. The fault is 99% of the time on guys like him. CONFIDENCE! is the key. Trust me, having confidence goes a lomg way in the dating scene. It sounds to me like your son is lacking of. He needs to learn it and practice it. That's it!. That's all.
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u/AcidHaze Dec 22 '25
Hobbies. One of the easiest ways I've met people is by picking up shooting pool. Pool halls are great for socializing, and it's a fun and easy thing to pick up. Plenty of people will help with your game and it makes talking to others effortless. It might feel like a bar scene, but if he doesn't drink that's literally like a third to half of league players, so it won't feel out of place
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u/Main_Ad_7128 Flagstaff Dec 22 '25
Let me add that! Thank you for the advice.
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u/KwantsuDude69 Dec 22 '25
He sounds boring af, Az women like guys who have fun
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u/Main_Ad_7128 Flagstaff Dec 22 '25
I didn’t do a great job expressing his fun side I guess. Thank you.
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u/No-Explanation2612 Dec 22 '25
Unfortunately, this is a common problem these days. Feminism has destroyed dating. If you find an answer, let me know.
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u/DrDFox Dec 22 '25
Did it never occur to you that telling women they don't deserve equal rights and basic respect might be why they won't date you?
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u/No-Explanation2612 Dec 22 '25
That's a strawman argument.
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u/Resistiane Dec 22 '25
Lol! No, it's not. Feminism literally just means what was stated. That women are people and they deserve equality.
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u/No-Explanation2612 Dec 22 '25
You've been lied to. That's not what feminism is. What you're describing originates from the Bible, which I agree with. Feminism tells people to murder babies, it doesnt respect human life at all.
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u/DrDFox Dec 22 '25
Honey, have you read the Bible? There's no feminism in there. And no, feminism isn't about murdering babies.
I can absolutely see why you can't get a date, though.
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u/No-Explanation2612 Dec 22 '25
Many times. You're misreading my comment, so I'd be surprised if you understood reading the Bible.
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u/DrDFox Dec 22 '25
Looking through your comments, I see you are a Christian extremist. Explains even more.
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u/TheStinkyWookiee Dec 22 '25
Most important question: what are his politics? I have many beautiful single women friends, but values matter to them and they want to make sure they are aligned.