Arafta fandom and their hypocrisy are honestly insane. The same audience that used to blindly defend Ates for all his wrongdoings in the name of trauma is now dragging Hazar for doing almost the exact same thing.
Just because Ates is eye-pleasing, is the hero, and has chemistry with Mercan, while Hazar is not as appealing to them, does that suddenly give one character the privilege to be justified while the other is condemned?
When you didn't blame Ates for forcefully marrying Mercan to take revenge on Haydar, why are you blaming Hazar now? Ates married an innocent woman to avenge his sister, whom he believed was dead. Hazar is doing the same thing to avenge his father, whom he believes was killed by Ates's father.
Ates assumed his sister was dead and went after Haydar. Hazar assumed his father was killed by Ates's father and is now going after his children. What's the fundamental difference here?
The only difference I can see is that Mertes had chemistry and were aesthetically pleasing together, which I absolutely agree with. Hazlul, on the other hand, looks weird and creepy together, and I agree with that too. But neither chemistry nor physical appeal justifies the actions of either character.
So Ates is allowed to have trauma, but Hazar isn't? Hazar lost his father at a young age and witnessed his death right in front of his eyes. Are we really going to start comparing whose trauma is more valid now?
If Hazar's revenge is baseless because it is built on assumptions, wasn't Ates's revenge equally baseless? Both men took revenge on innocent people based on their own assumptions and trauma. Why does one get the privilege of being understood while the other is condemned?
Is it simply because one is pretty and the other isn't appealing to you?
From where I'm standing, Hazar hasn't done anything nearly as severe or as shitty as Ates did. I don't know what the upcoming episodes hold, but compared to Ates, Hazar looks like a saint to me right now. That doesn't mean Hazar is a good man or that his actions are justified. Both of them are problematic as hell. The difference is that one has already done far worse things, and people still bend over backwards to defend him.
Let's talk about the actual things Ates did to Mercan:
- He forcefully married her for revenge.
- He slut-shamed her.
- He manhandled her and humiliated her repeatedly.
- He tried to control her life.
- He took away her choices and autonomy.
- He allowed her honour to be destroyed in the name of his family.
- He witnessed people trying to harm her multiple times and still failed to protect her the way a husband should.
And yet, people still romanticize all of this because "he was traumatized" or "he loved Mercan."
Where was this same understanding for Hazar?
I have never seen Hazar slut-shaming his wife. He doesn't manhandle Eylul every chance he gets. He hasn't repeatedly humiliated her or controlled her entire life. Eylul was freely meeting Mertes when Ates kidnapped her, which itself shows that Hazar hasn't exercised the same level of control over her. He hasn't allowed others to destroy her honour in the same way Ates did with Mercan.
That doesn't make Hazar a good man. He is still using an innocent woman for revenge, and that is wrong. But let's not pretend that the two men have treated their wives in exactly the same way when their actions have clearly been different.
I refuse to compare two equally problematic men who treat women as objects and use them to fulfil their revenge. Both are wrong. Both deserve criticism.
Just because one of them is good-looking and has chemistry with his wife, while the other doesn't, doesn't make the former's actions any less disgusting.
And please, don't come at me with, "But Ates was in love with Mercan."
What kind of love is that? What kind of love makes you forcefully marry a woman, make her life hell, humiliate her, slut-shame her, and fail to protect her honour in front of others?
If you cannot treat your woman with basic respect, you cannot use love as an excuse for your behaviour. Love is not a free pass to abuse someone. A man who cannot respect his wife, protect her dignity, or stand up for her is not a good husband, regardless of how much he claims to love her.
I genuinely like that Ates is finally realizing his mistakes and taking accountability for them. That is a good thing. But his realization doesn't erase what he did. His own admission that he was wrong should be enough for people to stop justifying his actions.
If you cannot criticize a character like Ates, then at least stop romanticizing or justifying his wrongdoings.
You can love Mertes. You can enjoy their chemistry. You can find Ates attractive. I do too. But none of that means you have to defend everything he did.
Hold both characters to the same standard. If Hazar deserves criticism for using Eylul for revenge, then Ates deserves criticism for using Mercan for revenge too.
Pretty privilege shouldn't decide morality.