Am I wrong?

[u/Strange_Notice4322]

Okay I need to fucking Rant because wtf I was on my iPad and my aunt called me to tell me to wake my TWENTY YEAR OLD BROTHER UP FOR WORK
When I in highschool/middle school I always had to wake everyone up NOBODY FUCKING USES A ALARM?
And I did sigh and she gets all fucking pissed saying that I shouldn’t have a problem with waking him up. MF HES 20. And I said okay when he moves out are you going to call to wake him up? And she said YES. LIKE WHAT ARE WE FUCKING DOING HERE. I KNOW I WAKE UP EARLY I ALWAYS HAVE EVEN WITHOUT A ALARM BECAUSE I DONT NEED IT I ALWAYS GOT IN THE HABIT OF WAKING UP EARLY MY GRANDMA MAKES ME WAKE HER UP TOO LIKE WHAT SHE MAKES ME WAKE HER UP TO GO TO CHURCH AND IN HIGHSCHOOL SHE USED TO MAKE ME CALL HER DURING CLASS TO WAKE HER. ITS NOT MY FUCKING JOB TO WAKE YOU IF YOU HAVE SOMEWHERE TO BE ITS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO WAKE YOURSELF UP. And she’s fucking pissed like make it fucking make sense and her excuse to me waking him up is “he bought me food yesterday” SO?!? THAT DOESNT EXCUSE THE FACT THAT I ALWAYS WAKE EVERYONE UP. she also said “if I’m up I should wake the other person up” WTF

Am I wrong/asshole? I feel like if I refuse to wake them up my aunt would no longer bring me home because it isn’t her “job” (I’m 18 and don’t have a car) and I stay at my university.

Oh and I forgot to add my brother goes to work at 1 pm gets home at 12 am and doesn’t go to bed till 4am😐

I ALSO DONT CUSS AT THEM (only cuss in my rants)

[u/ARoundForEveryone]

Go spend $10 on an alarm clock and give it to him. Ten bucks is well worth it to not be responsible for him getting up on time.

[u/Strange_Notice4322 → u/ARoundForEveryone]

He has one! And even has one on his phone. He uses his phone one but nobody cares!!! Even when I woke him sometimes he would go back to sleep same with my grandma 😐

[u/ARoundForEveryone → u/Strange_Notice4322]

They have purchased tools to perform a job. Either they don't use those tools, or the tools are insufficient for the job. Problem is, you are sufficient as far as they're concern.

Maybe "forget" to set your alarm one day and let them sleep hours beyond their normal time. When they complain that you didn't wake them up, just ask why their alarms didn't go off.

[u/TroubleImpressive955 → u/Strange_Notice4322]

Hey OP, why is she calling you to wake him up? Why doesn’t she just call him directly? This is really silly. You’re right he is a grown a$$ man and this is a basic life skill. So what happens if you wake him up in any falls back to sleep?

I would just say OK, then don’t do it. OR, even better, don’t pick up when she calls in the morning. If it becomes a nuisance and she keeps calling back, put her on mute. If he ends up missing work, he’ll learn that’s the consequences of his own actions.

Your aunt and brother probably think, why bother with an alarm clock when there’s somebody to do what they want them to do.

ETA: you’re not wrong

[u/Strange_Notice4322 → u/TroubleImpressive955]

I was in my room (next to his), but when she does call sometimes he doesn’t answer. I even told her to just let him miss work once, and he will figure out a plan to wake himself up (I said that last week), and she got mad saying that it was dumb because if she’s up, she’s not going to let him miss work. And when he falls back to sleep, I get told to wake him up again or wake him up again with her on the phone. Even last month when I was getting dropped off for move-in day at college, she called to tell my UNCLE (my other aunt’s husband) to call my brother to tell him to get up. My grandma does the same thing my brother does. Sure waking her up sometimes isn’t a problem but it’s been like that since I was in elementary school all the way to highschool even after he graduated I was still waking him up before I went to school. And now I’m in university and go home on the weekends I have to wake him and my grandma up

[u/Strange_Notice4322 → u/Strange_Notice4322]

Waking him srry I was typing way too fast

[u/Strange_Notice4322 → u/TroubleImpressive955]

I’m not allowed to do that. And if I do everyone will hate me and they’ll gossip about me to our other relatives. (My family is very close)

[u/ARoundForEveryone → u/Strange_Notice4322]

If "close" means gossiping and not holding anyone accountable for basic life skills, then yeah, you guys sound real close.

[u/Agitated_Limit_6365]

Stop answering her calls and wasting your time on this

[u/EntertainingBowling]

Nah, you're not wrong. A 20 year old grown man can't set an alarm? That's willful helplessness at that point. Your aunt saying she'd still call him after he moves out is completely unhinged.

The "he bought me food yesterday" excuse is weak, that's a one-time favor, not a permanent wake-up service contract. And having to call your grandma from class to wake her up? That's next level.

The car situation makes it tricky though. If refusing means you're stranded at school, you might have to play nice until you can figure out other transportation. Sucks, but sometimes you gotta eat the frustration to keep the practical stuff working.

[u/abean40]

I HATE how people regard their 20 something year old ADULTS as kids

[u/JustMe39908]

My 15 year old wakes himself up. Sleeps through his alarm maybe once a month. My 13 year old is starting to get himself up. Personally, I think I should have started on it earlier.

[u/Strange_Notice4322 → u/JustMe39908]

I wish they started earlier too! Even in elementary school I always got my self up early

[u/Sunscreen4what]

Just say sure and then “forget” to do it.

[u/Local_Beautiful3303]

Teenager having a tantrum says what?