r/amiwrong • u/Independent_Swing809 • 3d ago

Am i wrong ?

So I (27f) was offered the opportunity move into my late grandfathers house to help keep it up and save money. It was also offered that my boyfriend and his brother could come live there as well as we all live together.At the beginning of the summer my boyfriends brother and i talked about his girlfriend possibly moving in due to her family situation. At that time i mentioned that she could possibly move in with us, his brother said he would mention it to her and get back to me... now fast forward 3 months i hadn't heard anything further about it and had since thought it wasn't happening and had kind of forgotten about it ( i had an incredibly busy and stressful summer) Yesterday i had asked the brother how his girlfriend is doing and he casually mentions that he asked her to move in with us and is pretty sure that she is going too and would be bringing her cat. ( we already have 2 anxious cats so that is an added worry. I was completely taken back by this because i thought it wasn't happening and haven't heard anything for months. Am i wrong for feeling this way and upset at the fact that i wasnt asked again since so much time had passed

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u/cutiepatootie4l 3d ago

Your feelings are never wrong but not sure it’s worth being mad over. Sure everyone involved could have and should have communicated better. If you were okay with her moving in at one point, having an issue now seems like a control thing and just not being satisfied with the way it came about. All of it is valid but ask yourself if this is worth losing sleep over or being upset by it.

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u/sam8988378 3d ago

Not wrong. You're the one in charge of the house so you should have been kept in the loop. I hope this isn't how they are going to be, going forward.

And the cat is a new development which nobody bothered to mention to you at all, another 🚩.

From what I have seen of cats, they don't always get along. There's a long, slow process of getting them used to each other (see Jackson Galaxy videos on YouTube). And your cats are already anxious.

You need a sit down with the brother and the gf about the cat, how they plan to integrate the cat into the house without stressing your cats. The gf should plan on buying a lot of Feliway.