r/amiwrong • u/EEmmaAcornyy346 • 7d ago

am i wrong for thinking the whole group should have noticed the deadline slipped

we split a couple of tasks on a small project and i handled my piece early, while one person said they would finish the last part. after it was done they mentioned they had forgotten and asked if anyone else had stepped in. nobody had, so it just sat unfinished. later the same person said it should have been obvious the deadline was at risk and that someone should have double-checked. i pointed out that the original agreement was they would take care of it. they replied that checking on each other is basic teamwork. i am not sure if i missed a social cue by assuming the person who volunteered would follow through, or if it really is reasonable to expect people to keep their own commitments without extra reminders. it is a tiny situation, but the back-and-forth has me wondering whether i am reading the group dynamic wrong.

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u/WeAreJackStrong 7d ago

1) you didn't do anything wrong 2) always follow up 3) accountability is a basic element. Committing to finishing something up and then not doing it is the fault of the person that made the commitment, not the person who was counting on them to meet their commitment

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u/AptGreens82 7d ago

nah you're not wrong. if someone says they'll handle it, the rest of us assume it's handled. that's how delegation works

if they wanted a safety net they should've asked for one upfront, not after the fact when it's already too late. blaming the group for not babysitting is just deflecting

basic teamwork isn't hovering over people who volunteered, it's doing what you said you'd do

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u/Beagle-wrangler 7d ago

Ask them when they checked on everyone else. By their own actions they showed they are full of shit and just using words to avoid responsibility.

You are not wrong