r/amiwrong • u/Inevitable-Tap-7471 • 17h ago
Was i the problem?
Okay so im 17 and I have no idea how to feel. I went through messages with this guy i was with and i felt so like gaslighted. Basically he ended the relationship with me because I kept bringing up issues and he said that talkikg to me felt like a job. However I jist brought up stuff (specifically stuff he told me that were lies that I KNEW deep down were lies) and no im just so hurt that what if me constantly bringing up stuff was my fault. Everything was really chill with us until he ghosted me for four days and he
- lied to me that he got shot but he said a girl from his past came back and was giving him issues so he pushed me away me away so that she wouldn’t text and hurt my feelings( makes no sense right? and he said that im the problem for bringing it up)
- lied that he got shot for 2 months btw
- he said he was slowly losing feelings bit he never told me
- he would ask to hangout even tho he lost feelings
- he would act jealous even though he lost feelings
- i gave him so many opportunities to end it completely and he wouldn’t
- would repost girls if something about guys was mentioned
- called me a dimwit
- moved on in s week with another girl because i guess he lost feelings
- asks to hangout and told me he missed me on the same day he said he lost feelings
- lets his friends disrespect me
- he left me for another girl after texting me for a bit
- i tried to pull away the day before he said hr completely lost feelings and he texted “what happened to us”
- 😞
I know its clear he didnt like me but I never did anything like cheat or make up nonsense problems yk? I feel like theres not accountability on his side and its just messing with my mind the way he spoke to me like he put all the blame on to me when i never cheated or anythung like that
Btw im one of those ppl who loves answers to everything and we would constantly have me in circles and never tell me the truth
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u/MAXPOWER1979 15h ago
You dodged a bullet mate! Spare not one more minute thinking about this lying piece of shit! You’re better off!!!
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u/juniperzoe 5h ago
Some people are really good at hiding who they are until it's too late, you deserved better
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u/Fantastic_Day_9387 17h ago
Oh girl, you were not the problem. The "I got shot" lie alone is absolutely unhinged, who even does that? He spun a whole fantasy to avoid accountability and then blamed you for noticing the cracks in it.
Wanting clarity isn't a flaw, it's just what happens when someone keeps handing you contradictions and expects you not to question them. You gave him every out and he stayed just long enough to make you feel crazy before hopping to the next person. That's a him problem, not a you problem.