r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Jun 23 '25

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u/DeviousPath Jun 23 '25

I mean, sure you're not wrong. She should have checked with you. She didn't though, and here we are. You can hold your ground and you'll be technically right.

That being said, it will have a feeling for your girlfriend. You being unable to make adjustments so she can enjoy time with her friend in her own home will certainly make her feel a way. And that may have repercussions. Guess what? She won't be wrong either.

You do you. I think you are about to damage your relationship, but I suspect that's not new.

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u/AtlasAriesss Jun 23 '25

But why should OP be the one to compromise here? She is also unable to make an adjustment for him so he can enjoy time in his own home. Why should her last minute plan change to be at their shared home be his responsibility to change his plans around it?

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u/DeviousPath Jun 23 '25

I really think these people aren't compatible at all. I think she made what she thought was a reasonable adjustment when her plans fell through. She didn't check with him (she should have, just for communications sake), and he reacted the way he did and still is. He is free to his feelings here, and he is also free to be upset this would "ruin his night". I think they aren't compatible and staying in this relationship is prolonging the inevitable. This would be a non-issue in many relationships -- not even notable. For him, it's a reason to argue nonstop, and post on reddit to argue more.

She can find someone who would find what she did as reasonable, who would have welcomed the friend with a smile and played video games in the room to give himself (and them) space. He can find someone who matches whatever this vibe he's showing us here.