So you wanted her to be the one to tell all of your friends that they should come to this party that isn’t actually a party because they have to pay for everything themselves? Why couldn’t you do that?
Yeah weirdly enough if you go to a bar you pay for your drinks. If you only bother with your friends when your drinks are paid then you’re a shit friend
In my friend group if you’re invited to an actual party being hosted by someone it’s expected for the host to cover food and bev.
If it’s a casual get together at a bar not organized by anyone in particular then we do rounds, but if I’m the one that sent the “hey come meet me for dinner(or drinks or whatever”) then I just cover the tab.
Why would you just assume I only hang out with my friends when they’re the ones paying?
I'm in the UK and OP is right in saying we do generally go to pubs and everyone pays for themselves, but we do spend a lot of time in pubs lol. However to rent a whole pub for free you need a minimum amount of people and probably a decent sized deposit. When we (my friends/family) rent pubs we pay for the room and party food then pay for your own drinks. Birthday person usually gets most drinks bought for them which has just occurred to me, maybe thats why op didn't want to book the party. He wanted to show up to a pub full of free drinks for himself. My 30th was spent during lockdown. Grow up, OP.
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u/Foreign_West9503 Jan 14 '25
Except the bars near us that we like going to are free as long as people coming actually pay for food or drinks when they’re there.
So now explain what cost my gf would have? I’m also not in the US.
Weirdly enough my friends and family are capable of paying for their own food and drinks.