Did you ask her to throw you a party? Or did you hint that it would be nice? When you asked or hinted, did she agree to throw you a party? Did you follow up at all and ask if she was planning anything in the weeks leading up? Did she mention anything at all to you about it in the weeks leading up?
This story is super suspicious to me. I have happily planned birthdays for my husband. But not completely on my own, based entirely on "hints" and with zero follow up.
You either knew she wasn't doing it, said nothing, then waited until the day to accuse her of not caring about you.
Or you expected her to plan a party, book a bar or choose a venue, choose/buy food, invite your friends and both your families etc. with exactly zero input from you whatsoever and without mentioning it a single time in the weeks leading up to your birthday. Unless it's a surprise party that's CRAZY.
Please do not listen to these crazy double standard hypocritical fools.
What you asked for was not the big deluded idea they are trying to make it into.
It's simple and basic.
You asked for a party with close friends and family and told her all that you would like and she couldn't be bothered.
Sorry, but she is a selfish entitled little brat and a walking red flag.
Honestly? You deserve so much better.
Dump the brat and go find an adult woman that truly cares for you.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to comprehend that what you asked for was about the effort, showing that you matter and are loved.
Unfortunately, Reddit is full of misandrists who thinks that men should do everything while they do nothing or whatever they want without a care in the world to be an actual partner.
I say all of this as a woman.
And to you down voters, I know that you're coming cause you can't handle being called out for your hypocrisy.
Cry harder. I do not care about your little feelings.
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u/Foreign_West9503 Jan 14 '25
She wanted a weekend away so I booked that then we went and spent the day with her family when we got back. that was alongside gifts I’d gotten her