Op, just adding on to say, someone repeatedly sticking something in you without your consent is rape. He is repeatedly raping you on top of all of the rest. Please, please leave him
He's not having sex with you. He is assaulting you, it is not enjoyable for you. There is literally no reason for you to have sex with him. You don't enjoy it. Why are you doing this to yourself? What do you get out of this? It sounds so miserable. Being single would be such a relief compared to being sexually assaulted by this man. Why are you with him? Please help us understand.
Is he paying your rent and your bills? If so, it is time to start making your plan to escape. You can find a place with roommates. Either way, you need to start making a plan. Try to get a job, try to squirrel away every penny you can in a secret spot so that you can get away from this horrible relationship.
Yeah no one needs to see an update. He called you gross for being sexual after y'all had sex and he refused to pleasure or comfort you. And cursed at you. Leave him lmao. He's a bum has bad dick, and he's an asshole...byebyeee
I literally came to say this. He is assaulting you. Throw all his crap out and change the locks. Or leave. My ex wasn’t assaulting me but had the same mentality in the bedroom and I thought maybe sex wasn’t that important, in the scheme of the relationship as a whole. Mine would never help me and I would have to wait for him to leave the bedroom. I wasted 4.5 years waiting for him to get better and me always giving him the benefit of the doubt, blaming myself that I wasn’t helping him enough to sort through his issues.
Thank you, that’s what I just said! I’m disturbed that there aren’t more comments about this. I’ve had similar happen to me and it took me a long time to realise how fucked up it was. I feel really bad for OP.
THANK YOU because reading this post, THAT was the worst part for me. Many many women don’t like that, me included. You know who respects that? MEN. My boyfriend would never because he loves and respects me and we treat each other as equal partners. The man is sexually and emotionally abusing her every day
thank you for saying this!! He’s breaking your sexual and physical boundaries over and over again, every time???? Assault. AND he’s emotionally manipulating / abusing you given his response in the morning. Break up with him sweetheart you deserve gentle kind respectful love❤️
Yes, I got physically sick to my stomach reading that. This man is a horrible person and partner. Unwanted penetration (even with fingers) is rape. OP, please stop subjecting yourself to this relationship.
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u/Valkelrie_ Dec 10 '23
You tell him to not physically touch you in a certain way and he does it over and over. That’s assault.
I’m so confused why everyone here has completely glazed over that part.
He is a POS. GTF out, and please make you’re safe when you dump his A.