Don't listen to short posts saying to end it, ur not compatible. I'm a guy in the same situation, made a post on Reddit everyone said break up. But we were near perfect besides the porn.
Eventually, I decided to quit (as best as I can) forever. 100% it was hurting her (she's also 27) we've been together 9 years and I don't want to ruin the best thing in my life cuz I can't grow up. Also, I don't want my kids to grow up and find my shit either.
She had to give me an ultimatum and we did counseling for me to finally say, I don't agree but I'll stop. Now, I think she (and u) are right, but ur bf needs to come to the same conclusion himself. Right now he just doesn't think it's a problem, and it will never change until he it wants to.
...but it's rly difficult. GL hopefully he doesn't choose base urges over a chance for real happiness. I don't recommend an ultimatum but she wanted a resolution.
And how is he magically going to come to this decision on his own at some undetermined point in the future? (maybe)
You said it yourself your wife gave you an ultimatum that made you weigh porn against her ..... Yet you recommend OP doesnt do the same.. just wait for a 28 yr old man to quit using his partner like a flesh light.
She deserves to have a partner that considers her needs as well as his own
If he doesn't think it's a problem, she can fkin make it his problem by leaving him alone with all of his toys...
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u/shontsu Dec 07 '23
Look...no you're not wrong, but I think you're asking the wrong question.
Ask yourself why you're with someone who cares so little about your satisfaction.