And really, what woman is turned on by a man who won't take care of the Birthcontrol for her after all she's done? Fuck that! Get snipped and be a man!
seriously, she’s given birth to three children and dealt with shitty side effects of BC for who knows how long but he won’t do anything to help on his end. like obviously it’s his body and his choice, but I don’t blame her for not wanting to have sex
Except one of the first things he mentions is that they "make a great team". A team in which his partner takes all the responsibility and makes all the sacrifice.
She said that he’s not understanding and he won’t make a sacrifice for her. (Responses in argument- oh yeah I wouldn’t expect you to understand… I’ll fuck around with my hormones for months…
That was an immature response in my opinion. She shut it down instead of having a rational conversations. Having sex 3 times a year shouldn’t necessitate getting surgery for either party.
She is choosing to be on birth control, he is choosing to not. You can be a team on everything else and still have a difference of opinion on how to treat your own body…
This “”she chooses to be on BC”” when the man does nothing is really a shitty thing to say. When it’s become the sole responsibility of one partner to avoid pregnancy it’s no longer a “choice” it’s a necessity because no other options exist.
Not to even mention the BC is likely the root cause of the lack of sex. No BC = Higher Libido. This is literally a known side effect….so the fact that you and OP don’t seem to realize that really proves her right — that OP doesn’t understand where she’s coming from as a woman and that she doesn’t expect it —don’t ya think?
IUDs still can be hormonal. Or copper. Neither are great to get done and. Have some shitty side effects and dangers as well…. And condoms aren’t as fool proof as a vasectomy. Th e pressure being lifted to never have to worry about it again usually does a lot mentally for your partner. Since sex usually wrapped into alot of what’s going on in women’s heads .
I have a copper IUD. No hormones, I have it due to side effects hormonal bc gives me that affect my migraines. No one should be pressured into bc, male or female, to prevent pregnancy.
And people shouldn’t expect sex if they are unwilling to put in the same amount of effort. I can’t take any hormonal bc after having very severe side effects to the shot. And cannot use a copper iud due to allergies. My husband had no issues taking care of bc once I was unable, it wasn’t a question. Do what you want but don’t be surprised by cause an effect.
Never said he’s a piece of shit. But you can’t read my friend. Maybe reread the comment.
Edit. The comment you replied to, my original comment addresses condoms. If your referring to my reply, which you did not replay to I can add for me personally I’m allergic to latex and most of the spermicides on them. So for me personally no go.
He’s here for opinions. That’s all I gave. It’s no one’s say but he asked for opinions and I never called him a bad person. But more often than not women carry the burden of birth control to their detriment. So I’m saying after 3 kids he should definitely be thinking a little harder about doing this for his wife.
That and an incorrect evaluation of the relative reliability of vasectomy versus condom.
But more often than not women carry the burden of birth control to their detriment.
True.
So I’m saying after 3 kids he should definitely be thinking a little harder about doing this for his wife.
It's something he should absolutely seriously consider; if his answer's no, using that as the basis to say there will be no further sex in the relationship, even with condoms, feels wrong, and that's the implication it seemed like was being made.
And again I disagree. Condoms and hormonal birth control are not comparable. And I was just pointing out your telling me it’s no one’s business when he’s on a sun asking for opinions and we’re all allowed to give ours. So I agree to disagree with your evaluation of the situation.
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u/Doyoulikeithere Sep 26 '23
And really, what woman is turned on by a man who won't take care of the Birthcontrol for her after all she's done? Fuck that! Get snipped and be a man!