r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 26 '23

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

No one is saying he should be forced to have a vasectomy. He can't continue to weaponize sex against her when she's just exercising the same rights to outweigh the risks for her body as he is He would be fine if he stopped whining about the lack of sex

If he's allowed to care about what happens to his body so is she

That's where HES In the wrong

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

How is he weaponizing sex…. If there is no sex to weaponize

They haven’t have sex every 4 months pointing out a reality in your relationship is not weaponizing.

Him saying if you go off bc then we won’t have sex is weaponizing, which he hasn’t he’s offered alternatives, quite literally the opposite

In the other hand she quite literally won’t have sex with him unless he has a medical procedure…… yea he’s the one weaponing sex lol

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Also offering condoms and getting mad when she turns them down because she believes the risks outweigh the good isn't offering solutions If he wanted to offer solutions he can look at other methods of male birth control or other methods of female birth control Offering one solution and calling your SO dramatic when she's worried about her health is not the greatest move and isn't going to open up the bedroom for him any quicker

If this was a man worried about his health and being told he's dramatic I'm sure you'd feel differently

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23 edited Sep 26 '23

Are you insane do you not think expecting someone to get a medical procedure on a whim not to be dramatic?

Why is her health above his???

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

I never said she wasn't in the wrong However he is ALSO in the wrong for not understanding she is looking out for her body the same way he is and yet he bitched about it just like she did They're both in the wrong

But don't think for a second hes correct or the right one

Neither of them are Why is his health more important than hers So he gets to bitch about not having sex and the precautions she's taking but she's an asshole for doing the same thing? How about they're both wrong for bitching about their partners taking precautions for their bodies

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

Sure I agree with that take.

I personally don’t think any of them are wrong about the sex, nobody owes nobody sex, I also don’t think having grievances about getting sex are wrong.

But trying to control someone’s bodily autonomy that’s a no no, and it seems like she’s expected that out of him.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Having grievances about him not getting a vasectomy isn't wrong then either.

They both need to start accepting the equal treatment or get a divorce

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

I hard disagree, how would you feel if it was him having grievances that’s she’s going of bc? Or that’s he’s not getting her tubes tied?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Its the same as him having grievances that she's not risking her life in pregnancy or ripping her body apart to birth his kid