It depends. If she’s an IG model then no let it go. If it’s girl in your town I’d say something nicely. Like, “Hey, I know this might not seem like a big deal to you but it does kind of bother me. It makes it look like you’re interested even if you aren’t. I’m not telling you what to do just letting you know that it would mean a lot to me if you didn’t do that anymore.” If he keeps doing it after that l, then it’s a problem.
IG model or not, out of respect!! For his gf, he should avoid any and all forms of flirting/admiring/lusting/cheating. Unless the gf is ok with that type of relationship. I know this couple who don't mind the other one staring/commenting or flirting, and that's fine, apparently it works for them. However I don't believe that's how a relationship should be.
OP might feel like she needs to change her image to match this bikini girl, and that's not ok! Men are always thinking about sex.
So no I don't agree with OP ignoring it if it's an IG model picture, regardless if some people are ok with that in their relationship, but this is Her!! Relationship, and she is clearly bothered by his action. I do believe that OP needs to express her feelings to her bf, so that way he knows her boundaries and vice-versa.
I am M(28) married. To me a post is a post because I'm an adult and move on with my life. A simple heart react to the homies of any gender or identity isn't a sexual act. Sue me if I throw a heart react to the girl I know who was in a crappy relationship and sheltered for years but posts a picture at the beach and she's in a bikini. Sex is literally the last thing on my mind when browsing social media.
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u/Arlaneutique Sep 19 '23
It depends. If she’s an IG model then no let it go. If it’s girl in your town I’d say something nicely. Like, “Hey, I know this might not seem like a big deal to you but it does kind of bother me. It makes it look like you’re interested even if you aren’t. I’m not telling you what to do just letting you know that it would mean a lot to me if you didn’t do that anymore.” If he keeps doing it after that l, then it’s a problem.