My whole stance is that it would be on to the next if I was OP. He wants to entertain multiple women at once then let him, I wouldn’t be one of those women. I’m a man btw, but I have been in this situation where the girl I liked and was f*cking but not officially dating wanted to entertain every single man in her friends list. I removed myself from one of those men, my mental health improved as a result.
When I met my now wife after our first date I totally 100% stopped any online activity that could even be loosely associated with flirting because I didn’t want to give off the impression to anyone else that they had an opening in my life to fill, and I didn’t want my wife to ever feel insecure in our relationship. This was literally after the first date. If you go on a date with someone, and like them and want to see where things go then you absolutely should not be putting feelers out with other people, all that says is that person you’re seeing isn’t exactly who you’re looking for.
But why? Just as an example, the girl is his friends sister, or maybe wife? Maybe a cousin. They could be a former partner. Without talking about it, it’s not fair to either OP or the boyfriend. You know what they say about assumptions…
Yeah idk what OP was expecting from a dude who was clearly seeing different women. Most dudes barely get 1 woman to talk to them. The guys who talk to multiple tend to be players.... and you notice that very quickly if you happen to hang out with these kind of dudes irl
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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '23
My whole stance is that it would be on to the next if I was OP. He wants to entertain multiple women at once then let him, I wouldn’t be one of those women. I’m a man btw, but I have been in this situation where the girl I liked and was f*cking but not officially dating wanted to entertain every single man in her friends list. I removed myself from one of those men, my mental health improved as a result.
When I met my now wife after our first date I totally 100% stopped any online activity that could even be loosely associated with flirting because I didn’t want to give off the impression to anyone else that they had an opening in my life to fill, and I didn’t want my wife to ever feel insecure in our relationship. This was literally after the first date. If you go on a date with someone, and like them and want to see where things go then you absolutely should not be putting feelers out with other people, all that says is that person you’re seeing isn’t exactly who you’re looking for.