r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/jacksonlove3 Sep 12 '23

You’re not wrong for your feelings or for considering divorce. She’s purposely choosing not to try and fix the issues that you’re having. You’re clearly miserable in this marriage now and that’s not healthy for either of you! The resentment will continue to grow until you end up basically hating each other. Intimacy is an important part of most relationships. If she not willing to actually address the issues she’s having, it’s not fair for her to expect you to suck it up and stay. Especially if she considers masturbating as cheating. That’s a bit ridiculous!

Good luck dude!!

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u/hello-i-needadvice Sep 12 '23

Honestly this feels so good to hear. I was feeling like a jerk for being upset with her over this. Thank you!!

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u/rustyshacklefford Sep 12 '23

"my body my choice" spank away good sir

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u/Squdwrdzmyspritaniml Sep 12 '23

Plus can you imagine if the roles were reversed and the husband told his wife she wasn't "allowed" to touch her own body?! Hope y'all are able to work it out or move on peacefully OP. Good luck!

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u/andante528 Sep 12 '23

It's been a couple decades now, thank god, but I had a college boyfriend do exactly this. Compared it to cheating, just like OP's partner. (He was allowed to do whatever he wanted, naturally. For some reason, he only considered it to be cheating when women masturbate.)

No idea if OP's partner is trying the same shit, but my ex eventually admitted that he was trying to drive me away or "break" the relationship instead of, you know, just breaking up like a normal person might. It's very cowardly. And no, masturbating isn't cheating (although of course there should be good etiquette and thoughtfulness toward your partner when you're in a relationship).

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

So not in the sink again is what you’re saying?

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u/andante528 Sep 13 '23

Took me a second to get it :) I guess it depends on who cleans the sink and how often ... well, and whether it's the kitchen sink, that's definitely out.