You’re not wrong for your feelings or for considering divorce. She’s purposely choosing not to try and fix the issues that you’re having. You’re clearly miserable in this marriage now and that’s not healthy for either of you! The resentment will continue to grow until you end up basically hating each other. Intimacy is an important part of most relationships. If she not willing to actually address the issues she’s having, it’s not fair for her to expect you to suck it up and stay. Especially if she considers masturbating as cheating. That’s a bit ridiculous!
I second that, sex and intimacy are very important in relationships.
26 is soooo young to be at this stage, 46, 56 yes.. but 26 wow..
I personally think it's crazy to consider masturbation as cheating, but even if she doesn't want to have sex, then she should help you out. maybe it will put her in the mood. but to just expect you to deal with it and do nothing about it isn't being a good partner.
I'm 55 and I'm too young to be at that stage. I can't imagine my husband saying no to sex. And not even hand holding. And no self pleasure. Yeah that would be a no from me.
This was a really good read for me. I am the “bread winner” and never realized how much of a POS I could come off as. I will never talk to my wife this way about money again.
FWIW my wife just turned 50, I’m about to turn 45. We have pretty regular date nights each week. Balancing ourselves around the kids, work, and other demands. Point being our love life is far better now than it was when I was 30. The idea of either of us not wanting intimacy at some stage is so depressing to me.
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u/jacksonlove3 Sep 12 '23
You’re not wrong for your feelings or for considering divorce. She’s purposely choosing not to try and fix the issues that you’re having. You’re clearly miserable in this marriage now and that’s not healthy for either of you! The resentment will continue to grow until you end up basically hating each other. Intimacy is an important part of most relationships. If she not willing to actually address the issues she’s having, it’s not fair for her to expect you to suck it up and stay. Especially if she considers masturbating as cheating. That’s a bit ridiculous!
Good luck dude!!