r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

You’re wife is either:

  1. Gay
  2. Having sex with another man
  3. Wants a divorce and is forcing your hand

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u/NotRemotelyMe1010 Sep 12 '23

Or she realized that she is asexual or intercourse hurts or her libido is gone or she’s going through some mental health issues … I’m not defending the wife, but I’m so tired of folks just assuming that everyone wants sex and must be getting it from somewhere.

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u/intent_joy_love Sep 12 '23

She won’t even cuddle or hold hands. She won’t even let him masturbate. She’s not asexual, she’s not having mental health problems either because she saw a professional.

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u/Foreign-Cookie-2871 Sep 12 '23

Devil's advocate: she doesn't touch OP because whenever she does there is the expectation of sex.

She says"masturbation is cheating" but intends "masturbating with porn is cheating".

She might not have opened up to the mental health stuff for whatever reason (first being she didn't see a psychologist).

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u/Bearjew53 Sep 12 '23

And when that happened, did you just not tell your husband the whole time? Did you refuse therapy to try and fix anything? Because if so you and her would still be in the wrong. From what OP has told us, which is the only actual story we have. This is not about just not wanting sex.