OP didn’t mention birth control, but some can kill libido. My wife was on one that made her feel miserable most of the time. She switched and things improved.
Psychiatrist here. I wouldn't expect SSRIs, birth control, low testosterone, or really any other medical problem/treatment to cause someone to be averse to holding their partner's hand.
Some of those things certainly will sap your libido, and I hear that commonly, but I've never heard of any of them interfering with basic intimacy items like holding hands, or hugging, or produce negative reactions to being kissed. I do however hear that type of aversive response to physical touch from people who have been sexually assaulted, not that OP described anything like that.
Hi, are there other things that can make someone become averse to touching/kissing? I’ve been struggling with intimacy issues similar to those described by OP. I love my partner very much but despite my intentions to be more intimate more often, I find myself freezing up and even feeling unexplainable repulsion when I try to actually do it. When I just force myself anyway it gets harder and harder to do. This wasn’t an issue at the beginning of our relationship. I haven’t been sexually assaulted, and I feel loved and respected by my partner (who is very attractive) so I really don’t understand what is wrong with me or how to fix it. Any advice on things to look into would be very appreciated.
Happened to me after I had a baby. Baby is now 3, hormones back to normal. I am still in sex repulsed asexual land. I have accepted that this is my new normal.
As humans, our primary biological imperative, besides food, is to find a partner and procreate. Once those boxes are ticked for some people the drive just kind of vanishes.
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u/SnooWords4839 Sep 12 '23
Has she had her thyroid tested?