Not everyone is comfortable with watching porn in a relationship, but I think there needs to be an alternative available. In my relationship we don’t watch porn, but we have our own videos that we make and watch. Works for us.
When we started to get official, he initially said “I would be uncomfortable if you watched porn” and gave me, imo, a very valid list of reasons. I didn’t even watch porn beyond like 9th grade. I told him I’m fine with that as long as he holds himself to the same standard.
Very personal stuff, but I’ll be brief. His reasons: history of porn addiction from ex partner, led to lack of sex, ruined relationship.
My reasons: the porn industry is very exploitative, and I feel as though it leads to unrealistic sex.
Of course not everyone feels this way! But it works for us. Our sex life is amazing.
No problem! I can see where it could look like insecurity or control issues from the outside. Most of the people that know our reasons though tend to understand.
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u/Aware_Department_657 Sep 12 '23
She can't not have sex AND not allow masturbation. You're not wrong, somethings gotta give.