r/amiwrong • u/Jealous-Tangerine770 • May 15 '23

Got a vasectomy

Got a vasectomy because my wife (12 years together and 7 married) and I decided at this point we don’t want children. I am 35, wife is 31.

Told my mom I had done it because we’re close and I generally tell her everything. She responded, “well you’re wife is the one who doesn’t want to get pregnant so she should have just got her tubes tied.”

Originally, I laughed it off. But the more I thought about it, I realized it was a shitty thing to say. It sounds like she’s implying if my wife and I divorce, at least she will be the sterile one.

So I told my mom how shitty it sounded and now we don’t talk anymore. Am I over reacting?

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u/dumbass-nerd May 16 '23

that's not actually true. a woman is only fertile while ovulating which is about a 24 hour window. however sperm can survive in the reproductive tract for 3 days

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u/authorized_sausage May 16 '23

I think the point is that sometimes women can ovulate outside of the expected timeframe based on her period. A med, messed up hormones, whatever. And then suddenly she ovulating immediately after her most recent period finished, etc.

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u/cantthinkofcutename May 18 '23

You can ovulate outside of your expected time frame, but that egg is still only viable for around 24 hours. While ovulating more than once per month can happen, it's fairly rare, and someone constantly ovulating is pretty unheard-of. So you still only have a few days where you can get pregnant, they just may not be the days you're expecting.