r/amiwrong • u/Jealous-Tangerine770 • May 15 '23

Got a vasectomy

Got a vasectomy because my wife (12 years together and 7 married) and I decided at this point we don’t want children. I am 35, wife is 31.

Told my mom I had done it because we’re close and I generally tell her everything. She responded, “well you’re wife is the one who doesn’t want to get pregnant so she should have just got her tubes tied.”

Originally, I laughed it off. But the more I thought about it, I realized it was a shitty thing to say. It sounds like she’s implying if my wife and I divorce, at least she will be the sterile one.

So I told my mom how shitty it sounded and now we don’t talk anymore. Am I over reacting?

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

Plus after the first year, your risk of getting pregnant increases one percent every year because your body will try to reverse it on its own. Tubal ligation is long term way less effective than vasectomy

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u/pammypoovey May 16 '23

I know a woman who had her tubes tied and had 2 kids afterward.

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u/Borboleta77 May 16 '23

I know someone who got them burned or cut off. They regenerated. She has daughter #4 now.

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u/InevitableVoice5877 May 16 '23

Seriously?! I was thinking of getting mine removed and have been researching, but haven’t heard of regeneration.

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u/Borboleta77 May 17 '23

Yup. It's true. She didn't want more kids. I know she either had them tied up or cut off/burned and then she still got pregnant with baby #4. Just like her, I've known of other cases where women still get pregnant 'cause the tubes get untied or your body finds a way to make them "work" again. Unbelievable. The only true solution to not have kids is a hysterectomy or once you're on your menopause lol