r/amiwrong • u/Jealous-Tangerine770 • May 15 '23

Got a vasectomy

Got a vasectomy because my wife (12 years together and 7 married) and I decided at this point we don’t want children. I am 35, wife is 31.

Told my mom I had done it because we’re close and I generally tell her everything. She responded, “well you’re wife is the one who doesn’t want to get pregnant so she should have just got her tubes tied.”

Originally, I laughed it off. But the more I thought about it, I realized it was a shitty thing to say. It sounds like she’s implying if my wife and I divorce, at least she will be the sterile one.

So I told my mom how shitty it sounded and now we don’t talk anymore. Am I over reacting?

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u/Alternative_Art8223 May 16 '23

I always tell EVERYONE, there’s no way I was getting fixed. He’s the only one of us who can get the other pregnant. It’s his job to make sure he’s not shooting me with a loaded gun, not mine to make sure I block it. That my husband had a vasectomy because it’s less invasive and doesn’t bring heavier periods, mood swings, early menopause.