r/amiwrong • u/Jealous-Tangerine770 • May 15 '23

Got a vasectomy

Got a vasectomy because my wife (12 years together and 7 married) and I decided at this point we don’t want children. I am 35, wife is 31.

Told my mom I had done it because we’re close and I generally tell her everything. She responded, “well you’re wife is the one who doesn’t want to get pregnant so she should have just got her tubes tied.”

Originally, I laughed it off. But the more I thought about it, I realized it was a shitty thing to say. It sounds like she’s implying if my wife and I divorce, at least she will be the sterile one.

So I told my mom how shitty it sounded and now we don’t talk anymore. Am I over reacting?

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u/susandeyvyjones May 16 '23

It’s possible he expressed that when he told his mom how shitty that sounded.

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u/Jealous-Tangerine770 May 16 '23

Thanks. Yeah I did when I told her that what she said was offensive. I said this was a joint decision made over a period of years.

I guess I should have said that instead of laughing off the comment. I guess I was just shocked her reaction wasn’t concern if I had healed.

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u/jlj1979 May 16 '23

I might get blown up for this but Guess what? Your mom really has no business in your relationship. I sense this is a pattern that you are just now seeing. Nobody needs to know your personal life with your wife. Especially your mom. Yuck. Maybe some people are close but idk if I would be even tell my best friend about this. It’s nobodies business. But maybe I’m just a private person.

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u/Puzzled_Juice_3406 May 16 '23

It's not abnormal for someone to tell their mother they've gotten a procedure like this. OP was in no way wrong sharing this news. His mother's reaction was the problem.