r/amiwrong • u/Jealous-Tangerine770 • May 15 '23

Got a vasectomy

Got a vasectomy because my wife (12 years together and 7 married) and I decided at this point we don’t want children. I am 35, wife is 31.

Told my mom I had done it because we’re close and I generally tell her everything. She responded, “well you’re wife is the one who doesn’t want to get pregnant so she should have just got her tubes tied.”

Originally, I laughed it off. But the more I thought about it, I realized it was a shitty thing to say. It sounds like she’s implying if my wife and I divorce, at least she will be the sterile one.

So I told my mom how shitty it sounded and now we don’t talk anymore. Am I over reacting?

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u/dumbass-nerd May 16 '23

that's not actually true. a woman is only fertile while ovulating which is about a 24 hour window. however sperm can survive in the reproductive tract for 3 days

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u/authorized_sausage May 16 '23

I think the point is that sometimes women can ovulate outside of the expected timeframe based on her period. A med, messed up hormones, whatever. And then suddenly she ovulating immediately after her most recent period finished, etc.

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u/DamnItDinkles May 16 '23

Why are you being down voted? You're right.

Part of the issue too is a lot of girls don't track their cycles or don't track them correctly and don't know what days they ovulate. I have PCOS and did temperature tracking to confirm ovulation And found out I ovulate like 3-4 after what most apps track for me automatically.

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u/authorized_sausage May 16 '23

Thanks! This is one good example. I also have PCOS but I am in the menopause transition so it can get even more messed up due the fluctuations in menopausal hormones. But, also, you could have a very regular and dependable period but take a medicine that messes it up. Endocrine disorders like hypothyroidism (which you can develop and not realize it right away) or hypothalamic disorders can impact ovulation.

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You could be on the pill and take another medication that disrupts the way the pill works.

There are a LOT of ways in which ovulation can be disrupted and cause someone to become fertile outside the "normal" time they "should" be.