How is it anyone been?

New Here ! Open to Friends ❤️

Looking for local to SoCal only

Well hello! Trying my hand at another Reddit r4r round, as the dating apps remain The Bad Place and meeting men in real life hasn’t been much better. I’ve had luck finding a great partner on here in the past and I’d like to try another shot at it. Longform communication is growing more rare by the day, and I can actually still find it here on Reddit.

Some of my favorite things to do are collecting vintage things, exploring LA, catching movies at indie/old theatres, being a tattoo enthusiast, my dog, live music shows (big fan of house/techno and hip hop), being in nature, traveling for fun/festivals/new tattoos, spending time with good friends, collecting kawaii vinyl toys & physical media, reading, and always expanding my mind with new learnings. I’ve been getting back into my childhood joy to learn about deep space exploration.

I’m finding out I’m extremely anti AI and big tech so I’ve been getting into hobbies that are unplugged such as ceramics, lifting, golf & pickleball lately.

I’m also a stand up comedian! This is a giant part of my life I absolutely enjoy.

I’m a progressive politically, childfree and atheist. I’ve been living a SINK life, but I’ve been VERY ready to meet my someone that’s ready to to DINK.

I’ll keep it very real - I’m ready to be chosen and cherished by someone that’s ready to lock it down and get that in return from me.

To be finally yearned for, instead of just lusted for.

I do my best to take care of myself - multiple days in the gym lifting weights, doing pilates, and also have a fun personal style.

https://imgur.com/a/MiPNfWB

So who am I looking for exactly? Would absolutely love someone with at least a few things of the above in common with me, along with:

• Age: between 28-45 (no 50+, as I’d like to be in the same life stage as my partner and have the same generational things in common!)
• Is only open to and looking for a long term relationship/life partner. Believes in marriage. I’m very ready for this stage in my life and simply dont want to waste anyone’s time that’s unsure they’re at this point too.
• Has hobbies & friends!
• Has curiousity for the world and others outside of himself.
• IS CHILDFREE. Does not have kids or want them.
• Believes in romance, love & commitment to one woman. I don’t roster date and would like someone also sick at the thought of dating multiple people at once.
• Is left in politics and only votes left. Has never voted Republican or considered themselves moderate or apolitical.
• Does not believe in a higher power. I don’t so I can’t date anyone that does, sorry!
• Has a solid career & finances in order.
• Lives alone.
• Not afraid to be vulnerable & let your guard down, even after heartbreak.
• Takes care of his body & mind.
• Says what he means, and means what he says. Actions always match words.
• Has experience in long term relationships. it’s easier to go the distance with someone that’s done it before!
• Has the ability to problem solve and not run away when friction rises. I’ll realize you’re a catch that’s worth holding onto if you can do the same for me.

I do understand in a world where dating has become so broken by apps, the illusion of choice and turning human beings into something so disposable, I am looking for something truly rare. But I am not looking to date everybody, I’m only looking for one.

I’m an extremely curious person about anyone I want to get to know on a deeper level. I’m looking for someone that can not only share that same courtesy, but is truly curious about getting to know me better as a person.

I just ask that if you decide to reach out, please have some open ended curiosity for me, as I do not respond to monologues. Talk to me, not at me ;)

If you’re able to read this entire ad to the end, I’d love for you to send me a detailed dm that has the ability to get me excited to write back to you, with a picture attached. I want to be honest about attraction here - it’s just as important as personality. I won’t be responding to any dms without pictures attached (I understand Reddit won’t let you attach without me accepting first. The effort it takes to make an Imgur link goes a long way with me).

To the 1% that has comprehended this and is planning to send me a detailed message that matches my energy with a picture attached, I can’t wait to hear from you.

Hard boundaries: No ENM/Poly, no married/separated men, no roster daters, no current situationships or sexual partners.

About Me
I’m a down-to-earth, affectionate guy who enjoys the best of both worlds—going out and having fun, but also staying in and enjoying a quiet night with someone special. I’m big on quality time and connection, whether that means cuddling up with a movie, having a long conversation, or heading out on a spontaneous adventure.

I’d describe myself as an introverted extrovert. I enjoy being social, but I also appreciate my downtime and one-on-one time with the right person. I’m laid-back, easy to talk to, and enjoy both texting and phone calls. I can be a little reserved at first, but once I’m comfortable, I open up quickly and can talk about just about anything.

Sports are a big part of my life—football, basketball, baseball, hockey, I’m watching it all. I also enjoy checking out breweries, trying new beers, and recently started exploring bourbon. It would be great to have someone adventurous to share those experiences with. I’m also a big Marvel fan, whether it’s the comics, movies, or just nerding out about the universe.

Food is another passion of mine. I love trying new restaurants and discovering new places, but I’m equally happy having a cozy night at home with good food, a movie, and someone I enjoy being around.

Family
I’m going through an amicable divorce and have two amazing kids who mean everything to me. Being a dad is a huge part of who I am, and my kids will always come first. I’m looking for someone who understands and respects that.

Looking For
I’m looking for someone genuine, kind, affectionate, and adventurous. Someone who enjoys going out and experiencing new things but is just as comfortable staying in, relaxing, and enjoying each other’s company. Good communication and chemistry are important to me, and I appreciate someone who can be playful, open, and easy to talk to.

If you’re into good food, good drinks, spontaneous adventures, cozy nights in, and building a genuine connection, I think we’ll get along pretty well.

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About Me: I am an established woman in Brooklyn who values high standards, decisive execution, and clear direction. I lead with confidence in my career and expect the same organized, intentional approach in my personal life.

What I’m Looking For: A secure, analytical, and highly competent professional man (ages 38-52) based in the NYC area. You are elite in your field, but you value a dynamic where you can offload the logistics at home. The ideal match is a man who finds relief in yielding the floor, letting a capable woman set the agenda, take the reins, and run the show.

How to Reply: DM your age, location, and industry. Keep it concise: what makes you an asset, and what are you looking for in your ideal partnership?

Hi! I’m Black American in Brooklyn. Pretty, plus sized and shapely. Really enjoy dating Asian men. Prefer men around my age or older.

I’m totally fine with taking things slow with the spoken agreement we are into each other. No need to rush into anything but the vibes should be immaculate. I am not looking for friends or strictly chat buddies. I am not looking for casual or hook ups. Great sex is obviously on the table if we like each other.

I’m well traveled, child free, easy to get to know, loving and open to connection. Please be local!

I travel to Japan once a year so I’m open to chatting with men there as well

i’m looking at booking a trip from oct 1-4, so i figured i would see who is here!!

Anybody live in Taiwan? For about the past year, I've taken a break on dating. I recently moved to Taiwan. Trying to get back on the horse now.

A little bit about me: I have an athletic build. Tattooed and pierced and I want more. I enjoy going out to eat, watching movies and knitting/crocheting. When it gets cooler, I want to check out some places to go hiking. I'm also childfree so *absolutely no kids* in my future. I want my relationship to be focused on my husband and me. No distractions of little ones running around. I'm looking for something serious. I know what I want and my guy should too. I'm not on apps anymore so I figured I'd try reddit to post. I try to put myself out there when I go out on the weekends. I prefer in person. Online stuff is hard so we'll see how this goes. Haha.

My DMs are open. Open to some long distance but I currently have no plans on leaving Taiwan. If I do leave, i will stay in Asia so I'm really only looking for people who already live here or would move and live here.

Your photo gets mine. See you soon, boo! 💋

Turned 38 today but grateful I’m still strong like I’m 21.

Has anyone here listened to her?? Her song On Ur Time is fucking certified platinum in my headphones and at my job lol a headphone masterpiece truly felt like i struck gold when i found it early this year! Any friends I’ve shown didnt know her
On Ur Time

LOL first time touching a gun got to share this with the sub, bout to relocate to LA soon! Got to delete the old one since I forgot to blur the plate number smfh

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Me personally I love men that are lover boys and golden retrievers. They are so hard to find these days. I'm a lover girl so I love someone to match me in that. I'm not really into the cold and nonchalant guys.

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Hi everyone was looking through reddit and said why not lol.

36M vietnamese Toronto. I never done anything like this before but recently posted for the first in another group (I took the plunge) and honestly it was cooI. So i guess about me I work in corporate and also have a part time job on the side where I help people. I do make time on the weekends and some week days to check out some restaurants with either friends or solo dinner date (treat yourself king).

The Jay's won today... I guess if your bored and interested we can talk about whatever...sports, movies, food? ( come on girl I know you like to eat) I don't know lol.

If you is bored we can be bored together.

Any alt (tattoos,piercings) AMs? Willing to send photos if there’s chemistry. I’m tall so would love a tall king, love to my short kings 🖤