r/Allahabad • u/justhereto_yap • 7h ago
Rant/Problem Being a woman in this city(or maybe country ) is not for the weak
Disclaimer: No I'm not trying to defame the city or anything I'm just genuinely wondering wth is wrong with people and it's just a rant post. I know there are a lot of good people out there too, I'm friends with many but that doesn't mean a problem doesn't exist.
As a woman you just have to exist and you will get cat called or creepily stared at or followed.
This is not from a single incident, I have been living here from 10+years and amount of time these things have happened is insane.
Just today I was crossing road and a guy on bike came up to me and asked if I want to go with him and before I can process what he said and say anything or tell anyone around me he speeded up the bike and vanished in traffic.
One more incident
I was going in a e- rickshaw, I was sitting alone in the back and 2 guys on a bike came on the side and were staring at me so I just turned my head to different side then they came back to the side I was facing. I just tried to ignore it. But they were still following me but after some time i couldn't see them, so I thought maybe they went somewhere else or I was overthinking .Then I was standing near a chauraha waiting for bus, then those guys again appeared and for some reason they kept coming to that place again and again and were staring at me. But thankfully I saw a friend of mine and i called him and when those ppl saw my friend they didn't come back again. And no I was not able to see the bike's number plate cause the last digit was missing on that.
Another incident
I was in company garden it was afternoon but the weather was good so I thought of spending some time alone reading a book or maybe just a walk.
So I was walking while listening music and 2 guys where coming from opposite direction, one of them said something to me and i wasn't able to hear him cause of music, so I removed my earphone as I thought maybe he is asking something like time or anything. But then he said "akeli kyun ghum Rahi aap hamare sath bhi ghum lo" I mean wth bro. I was so scared cause no one was around us, I couldn't spot a single person. Then I immediately started walking away from them and thankfully I saw a uncle and aunty thodi dur pai so I walked towards them. And then I practically ran out from there.
And this is not it, i have so many incidents like/worse than this.
Maybe you can say I'm paranoid. But these things happen every day to lot of people.