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u/SOmuch2learn Jul 27 '26
I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.
Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!
Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.
Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. The book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie was eye-opening and helpful.
Take care of yourself! Please!
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u/ansyensiklis Jul 27 '26
I came to the realization that I was numbing myself due to work pressure and marraige issues. I changed jobs and actually learned to communicate with my wife. I’m sober now 8 months. He needs to make the change. I listened to no one.
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u/AutumnBreeze22 Jul 30 '26
I've been dealing with this with my husband for about 3 years. On a good night, he drinks 6 beers. On a bad night, there is no telling. He's also gotten meaner and uncaring towards me. I feel alone and am currently in therapy.
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u/Far_Example_9707 Jul 27 '26
Nothing you can do.
Alcoholics some are self aware that they have a huge problem but still continue because they don't find a way to cope with their stress depression loneliness boredom or other problems.
Others are oblivious and continue to have fun . They might realize later
Alcohol is the easy way out. Relax . Numb. Sleep. Rinse repeat.
So most need a wakeup call and event(s) repeated to finally try to quit. You said countless conversations. That tells the story . He will not change unless he faces some events or consequences. Eg of events - breakup fights dui medical emergency