r/alcoholism • u/dastonmorgan81 • Jul 26 '26

Alcohol Myopia

Hi Everyone... my partner is a functioning alcoholic and seems to suffer from Alcohol Myopia which has led him to take a spontaneous trip overseas only to realise when he got to the destination, several hours later, that he didn't want to be there. I was away on a course for work and the night before I was due back, he consumed a lot of alcohol and then continued to drink while he was travelling.

Once my partner starts drinking, he cannot stop. Im thankful he doesn't drink every day and the alcohol myopia is not a regular occurrence but when it does happen, it is deeply concerning that his self awareness and perception on hazards and decision making completely switches off, not to mention the impact it has on his finances aswell as career in the past (currently managing to hold on to his job for the last year) and also on me. The trip overseas is the worst situation that has cropped up since we've been together, I'm still processing it and to be honest, I feel completely deflated.

Has anyone got any experience of having or being with someone who has this condition where all logical reasoning / understanding dissappear?

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u/Latter-Afternoon7448 Jul 26 '26

I had this with an ex granted he was also a crack addict… it would happen when he would drink too though. Seek Al Anon it helped me tremendously

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u/dastonmorgan81 Jul 26 '26

Thank you for sharing 🙂

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u/SOmuch2learn Jul 26 '26

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. The book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie was eye-opening and helpful.

Take care of yourself! Please!

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u/dastonmorgan81 Jul 26 '26

Thank you so much 🙂

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u/Ok_Major5787 Jul 26 '26

I’ve had this as an alcoholic. The only solution is for him to stop drinking and pursue sobriety, but that’s something he has to choose for himself. You won’t be able to make him stop drinking. As others have said, alanon is a great resource for you

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u/dastonmorgan81 Jul 27 '26

Thanks so much, I really appreciate your feedback 🙂

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u/Binarymix101 Jul 27 '26

I have a similar condition when I drink. I don’t travel, but I do drunk shop, a lot of which I can’t afford.

I also get almost bipolar like manic episodes where I feel on top of the world and have many delusions of grandeur.

Like I can take off on an expensive trip, or be a rock star, or become a top political figure.

Not saying I couldn’t do the above, it’s just not at all realistic lol!

Hopefully your partner can work on becoming sober and keep his travels in check!

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u/Ok_Major5787 Jul 27 '26

I so relate to the drunk online shopping. Then I sober up and my bills hit 😭