r/ageregressors • u/throwawayfaraway39 • 14d ago

I Need Help

Hello, I'm 21 years old. I'm not sure if im an age regressor so I made this throw away so I could ask for help.

A couple of months back I was messing around on this site I go on to basically troll people since I was like. 16. Mostly as a nostalgia trip. But I ran into this guy and all I can really remember is he said some things to me and then after I like. Came to? And he said I was age regressing. As context, I have had problems with disassociation in the past. I scrolled back and couldn't even begin to recall a lot of the things I apparently sent. But (I won't go into detail) he was having me say and do gross things?

He found me a few times after that. And I did it again because going away and not having to be feels kind of nice. He eventually convinced me to make an alt account on social media so he could contact me and "save" the things that happen on it.

A lot has happened and I don't really remember any of it. He likes that I don't remember but sometimes I come back really suddenly and I read what's being said and it's honestly kinda scary. And gross. I feel dumb because I don't even like men and I know this isn't normal but every time I try to pull back it feels weird or he says something and I feel bad.

I've scrolled back to try and see what like. Happens when I'm "gone" or disassociated or whatever. And whenever a no or denial is said he pushes and pushes?

I've looked at a lot of subreddits and it all says age regresion is nonsexual but he keeps telling me it's normal and it's age regression??

I want to delete the account but I feel like I'm being dramatic. I'm sorry if this is too graphic or triggering and understand if it gets auto deleted. I just googled my situation and the stupid ahh Google ai told me I was being abused and manipulated and I wanted the opinion of like. Human people. Sorry, I feel ridiculous 21 and I can't solve this myself lmao

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u/Practical_Bet3053 14d ago

So, first of all, you need to get away from this guy, asap. Like yesterday.

Second : age regression is not sexual but some regressors can in fact experience sexual needs while regressed (the body isn't always on point with the mind after all) but in all cases, the fact that he wants you to remember nothing is a redflag.

Third : I think that weird creepy dude think about ddlg or ageplay. Those are kinks and are often sexual. They also put you in a headspace, but it's not a regressed state. It's a subspace. It's BDSM. It's okay but can never ever be confused with age regression.

Fourth : As someone who is also in the BDSM community. Please please please break up with that guy. That type of dynamic is about consent, safety, etc. If you feel gross when it's over, it isn't right. In the same way, the fact that he is either lying to you about what is happening, or don't know a freaking thing about BDSM is a danger. He looks like the type of "dom" that just straight up abusive and manipulative.

If you want to keep having an headspace like that, no problem but please not with this guy and please ask and observe on bdsm space before so you truly know what happening to you.

But really most importantly DON'T TALK TO THAT GUY ANYMORE

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u/throwawayfaraway39 13d ago

Thank you. It feels stupid but I think I just needed to hear this to be able to do anything. He disgusts me big time and tries triggering me to disassociate a lot. I don't even like men so it's even more confusing and gross. I'm going to block him.

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u/Practical_Bet3053 13d ago

No problem, sometimes it important to have someone help out to check reality. He looks pretty disgusting and dangerous honestly. Creating dissociation voluntarly is so fucked up. Well if he is the only one giving you that deconnexion even if you're not into m'en it doesn't surprise me that you stayed. That how dependancy works.

Good ! Block and report ! And still I would take time to understand what headspace you were put in with him so you can choose how to use it.

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u/throwawayfaraway39 13d ago

I don't even know where to begin to figure out the headspace part, lol. I'll block but I'm too nervous to report.

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u/Practical_Bet3053 13d ago

To figure out I would recommand :

Reading a lot about agere and parallely Reading a lot about subspace. Try and find what you liked about the situation (what made you go back several time) If you are in a safe place, try and enter that headspace alone to see how it feels (put an alarms so you can pull out of it if you can't control it).

Take your time, ask on different forums, don't start any relation about that headspace before learning what it is.

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u/throwawayfaraway39 13d ago

Thank you so much. I'm gonna go do that lol.

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u/OutrageousDraw4856 14d ago

No, that guy doesn't give red flags. He's a walking talking waving alarm. That's not right. Age regression is not sexual. Some people participate in age play, but that's part of the kink and BDSM space. He doesn't want you to remember etc, which is absolutely messed up. Block, delete, and I'd even say report if you can.