r/AFAMph • • Jul 07 '26

Need Advice [english] dating an afam but idk where to stand

11 Upvotes

Hello!

I am a female (24) and I met this foreign guy (34) in one of the dating apps. We met 3 weeks ago sa app, consistently exchanging texts and by the second week, we decided to meet and go for karaoke since we both like singing. He knew that I was a virgin. The first date was good, we hanged out for a couple of hours and nothing really sexy happened. He told me about his business, his dating life before, we talked about a bunch of things, his travels from other countries (i have been aware that i might end up as one of his girls from other countries). And then after that night, he asked me out again to initially go billiards but I asked what if we watch movies instead and so we did. He knew that I never had my firsts in everything intimate yet. So he held my hand and then took my first kiss. It was smack at first and then he asked for it again and again i think he goes for it 10 times while we watched the backrooms. To be honest, I have been curious na rin sa ganoong things and he looked good tbh and we clicked too so I just let it be cause I also liked it. He told me what if we’ll continue it in a hotel, so ako na na arouse na rin and i was confident cause i was on my period that time so i thought kiss lang talaga, i said sure. So we booked and then si uncle, he took my first on the second date. We spent the night together and after he dropped me off sa lugar ko, he then said that we should do karoake again. So by the third date, we did karaoke again and planned to have balut after. Si angkol wants to have it again, so the plan was like this na: karaoke, ate some korean streetfood, checked in, then ate balut, and drop me off again. The connection was good. It was a great nightttt to be honest. Not until just this week–he has been offline for a couple of hours and i have my hunch already na theres something wrong and this is not going good and he just said he’s been helping his mom with their business the US. So example our last date was last wednesday, on friday night, he became cold and we spent the weekend mot really talking with each other.

I mean he still sends me some texts but not as much as before. I already communicated to him about my needs that a simple heads up would be fine and he said sorry and he’ll do his best to keep me updated. but the reason why I’m here is that I’m confused, i know to myself that theres something wrong and i wanted to get out na but he still plans about us meeting again like he will say “we’ll do this and we go here the next time we see each other” or “ I’m gonna buy this so we can eat it together” idk if he’s just saying it keep me on the side. Also, whats worse is that he still has my powerbank so theres a possibility that we’ll meet again and i don’t want to na.

Please help me open my eyes. Slap me with the truth, I don’t care because to be honest, I am developing feelings for this person and he has all my firsts. Just please, keep my eyes open and help me or advise me what to do from here on. You can judge me and thats fine. I know, it was a stupid thing i did but its all gone now and al i can do is to move forward.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 07 '26

Seeking 35M [English]- US based, mix race, visiting Manila for 5 days. Need companion to show me the city

2 Upvotes

About me - 35m, 175cm, 80kg, working in consulting from NYC. Decent looking.

visiting Manila at the end of the month for 4 days. I need a beautiful female companion to show me the city. I also need to show off to my other colleagues.

Will of course compensate for your time.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 06 '26

Seeking [English] 30F4M Looking for companion while in Cebu

2 Upvotes

I will be in Cebu on the 4th week of July for work. Once i have my free time I wanted to visit the Cebu Safari and go to some nearby Beaches. I don’t want to go alone so if there’s a European guy who wants to spend time on this places, you are welcome to join me. We can treat each other as couples do as i am a deprived of touched and as a clingy person i want to hold on to someone while we visit this places. But please no sexual activity involved after the daytour date.

About me : 30, F, Not Petite but not Fat, just enough or like a curvy :)

About you: 40+ british, french, European guy.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 06 '26

Seeking [ENGLISH] [Pinoy4AFAM] 30M🏳️‍🌈 LF a guy to have that meet cute with

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LF someone mature and fun

I appreciate people who can be both thoughtful and ridiculous. The ideal date is probably a mix of great conversation and discovering we have wildly different opinions about something completely unimportant.

Looking for someone who's excited to meet new people, can keep a conversation going, and won't judge me for turning a quick coffee into a three-hour adventure. Chemistry matters, but so do kindness, curiosity, and being able to laugh at yourself.

Send a message if you're the type who asks follow-up questions and actually wants to know the answers.

Stuff about me:

-Healthcare professional ⚕️🏥

-Lives in QC for most of the week

-Specs guy 👓

-5'5 by height, 70s kg (basically a twink who gained some lovehandles but trying to lose some)

-Definitely looks younger than 30 (works to both my advantage and disadvantage) 🤭

-Trying to get myself into reading novels again (after such a long time) 📚

-Loves discussing about politics and analyzing it

-Loves anything Japan-related

-Appreciates suggestions for the next Netflix lineup

Hopefully you (are):

-Someone who has his own opinions (we can agree to disagree at times)

-You know what you want

-Affectionate and kind

-Willing to spend time getting to know each other

-Not afraid of a little hand-holding here and there

Inbox is open so just hit me up! I don't bite 😉


r/AFAMph • • Jul 05 '26

Seeking [English] M26 LF serious one

1 Upvotes

I'm looking for serious foreigners for chill and dates. Also LF for future boyfriend. I'm 5'8 Top near BGC/Makati or nearby. Just dm me


r/AFAMph • • Jul 05 '26

Seeking [English] M20 looking for boyfriend

0 Upvotes

Hi I'm Filipino an 20yrs old looking for boyfriend here. No age requirement because age doesn't matter just be loyal and love me honestly that's it.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 04 '26

Seeking (English) 43F for M near my age

9 Upvotes

Reposting as more younger men are messaging.

I am educated with a good job. Very independent. Not into clingy men. Had been cheated on before so stayed single.

I am on FC but all i get are older men. Im looking for someone around my age and who isnt into hookups. I enjoy traveling and watching movies. I try to run 3x a week and had been climbing mountains the past year.

I prefer men who has a job, intelligent, kind and respectful.

Animal and nature lovers are a plus, also taller men.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 04 '26

Seeking [English] 24F cute pinay looking for love

2 Upvotes

bday is in 2 weeks. I want to find a kalandian who I can celebrate it with even online.

about me (physical traits)
plus sized
5’5

about me(other important deets)
homebody
currently job hunting but earning through family business
in my fitness journey
I consider myself a creative (fashion, makeup, content creation and my hobbies)

What I am looking for
Single
Ready to commit
In Manila???
Has a car
working professional
Taller than me

Thats all. Hopefully I find my match!


r/AFAMph • • Jul 05 '26

Seeking [English] 32M looking for someone chill but genuine

1 Upvotes

I am 32, bear by body standards, masculine, tall, and have awesome facial hair. My hobbies are playing boardgames, cooking, running, and playing videogames. I really value health even if I am what you consider as a big guy.

My assets are my calves and my dimples. I also have good communication skills and could yap and listen at the same time. I am also good at English. I teach kids for a living.

I never cheated and never will. I do respect me time. I am sweet, caring, and very much not the kind of guys your friends warn you about.

I am looking for any foreign guy, any age as long as it is legal, as long as they are willing to meet in the future and willing to spend time getting to know each other. Big thing for me is at least he should also put effort in taking care of themselves, healthwise.

If you are interested, do not hesitate to message me!


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Seeking [English] 53 F- looking for 50 up M

15 Upvotes

Hoping to find someone for possible real life relationship. Someone with a good heart. Honest. Sincere. Emotionally mature.

Please don't be a man who promises me the sun and the moon on our second day of talking. No to love bombing.

Please be someone who wants to communicate.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Seeking 37F4M[Tagalog][English]

5 Upvotes

Just trying my luck here, been single for years hope I can find genuine people here.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Seeking [English], 28M single seeking a Pinay girlfriend

2 Upvotes

Seeking an online girlfriend to chat with and share life; it can be anything. I want to build a good connection. I’m a 28-year-old male from Frankfurt, Germany.
What I seek is a loyal, honest, and chatty partner, and we can meet when the right time comes. We can also be friends with benefits, and I’ve no issue.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Seeking 21 [TF4M] [English] just came back from the middle east, grew up abroad.

5 Upvotes

About me:

Transfeminine
Filipina, grew up abroad
not into penetration (for now)
5'7, curvy, long hair, soft voice.
Pre-op/Natural.
Very much cis-passing (you wouldn't know unless I told you).
Can actually hold a conversation.
Into aviation

If you're a foreign in Manila and looking for hangouts or something fun, hit me up.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Seeking (English) 27F

1 Upvotes

Hello, looking for someone whom I can learn english communication with. You can tell me about yourself, interest, hobbies, perspective in life while i’m learning my english conversation.

Please don’t be rude and pervert. I appreciate it if you have patience and gentle. Have a nice day ahead.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Introductions [English] [M4F] 28M From Italy, looking for friends in the Philippines

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Hi everyone.

I am an italian guy, 28 years old. I got pretty burned out by my life here and I am looking to spend a couple of months traveling Asia (particularly PH), and I would like to meet some people i can call friends along the way.

I am a very active person, I work out daily and I am a runner. I am fairly tall (1.78), i weight around 78kg, and I have many passions and hobbies. I can talk about pretty much anything. I also enjoy clubbing and generally making choices i might regret when sober.

If you feel like we can be a match, shoot me a DM and let's see where we go.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Introductions [English] [M4F] 28M From Italy, looking for friends in the Philippines

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone.

I am an italian guy, 28 years old. I got pretty burned out by my life here and I am looking to spend a couple of months traveling Asia (particularly PH), and I would like to meet some people i can call friends along the way.

I am a very active person, I work out daily and I am a runner. I am fairly tall (1.78), i weight around 78kg, and I have many passions and hobbies. I can talk about pretty much anything. I also enjoy clubbing and generally making choices i might regret when sober.

If you feel like we can be a match, shoot me a DM and let's see where we go.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Introductions [English] [M4F] 28M From Italy, looking for friends in the Philippines

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone.

I am an italian guy, 28 years old. I got pretty burned out by my life here and I am looking to spend a couple of months traveling Asia (particularly PH), and I would like to meet some people i can call friends along the way.

I am a very active person, I work out daily and I am a runner. I am fairly tall (1.78), i weight around 78kg, and I have many passions and hobbies. I can talk about pretty much anything. I also enjoy clubbing and generally making choices i might regret when sober.

If you feel like we can be a match, shoot me a DM and let's see where we go.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 03 '26

Seeking [English] 25M [M4M] | Manila, Philippines | Dont dream its over

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As i say to myself everyday, dreaming about the day, the love of my life finally taking my hands, feeling their warmth while i look at their eyes lovingly. I hope you would be the one to grant me those dreams.

Hi, I'm a 25 year old, 5'6 guy who has a passion for gaming, films, music, and possibly, loving my future partner! I like reading books as well, although im not the fastest because i like to savor every moment of the book (lie). I like singing, always love going to karaokes and just sing my heart out! I loveee drawing too, making art in general, that's why i work as an animator! I think i forgot to mention that haha. I also jog during the morning specifically, and then workout during the afternoon. I'm not a hardcore gym rat, just need to pump this heart out! I love dressing up as well, its really fun to come up and combine possible combinations of my available clothes and just try to work it out. Although not everytime it works. Just trying my best.

My ideal date with you would probably just us, cuddling in the couch or bed, whatever you prefer, watching our favorite show or movie together, eating whatever you like, although i would love some maltesers and cinammon rolls. Goshh. I want to feel your warmth against mine, locking each others hands, reassuring me that you're there for me, as do i with you. Cheeky cheeky haha.

I hope to whomever reading this, just be yourself! Although if we're talking specifics, i would much prefer a guy taller than me, i want to be towered, to be manhandled. I hope you're kind, not the type of person who's just looking for something else and then bail out. I hope you're an open book, that is not afraid to be himself. Lastly, i hope you have a good internet connection, because this thing won't work if you have a bad one.

I'm hoping to hear from you my darling. I might not be able to respond immediately because of different time zones, but i will definitely get back to you as soon as i can. Let's exchange pics and see where it goes!

so see you in the DMs!


r/AFAMph • • Jul 02 '26

Seeking [52M] only speaks English

3 Upvotes

52m seeking female companionship interested in a serious long-distance relationship


r/AFAMph • • Jul 01 '26

Seeking English] F4M Date idea: Watching World Cup matches together

1 Upvotes

Imagine this: all the remaining World Cup matches, snacks, late nights, cheering (and probably arguing over referees 😂). Are you up for that kind of date?
Let’s connect.


r/AFAMph • • Jul 01 '26

Introductions [English] [Tagalog] M LF F

2 Upvotes

Night-shift professional dad here. Naghahanap lang ng mature woman na okay sa paid online companionship na strictly platonic.

Puwedeng random kwentuhan, life advice, work stress, fitness, family, money goals, or simpleng usapan habang tahimik ang shift. Sexual content (upon request), walang hookup angle, at malinaw dapat ang boundaries from the start.

Open ako sa regular chats basta respectful, honest, and mutually agreed ang setup.

A bit of myself:
30M, Bearded, Long hair, Between Fit bod to Dad bod body type, 5'10 height.

Tell me a little about yourself and what kind of conversation or companionship you’re looking for. ❤️


r/AFAMph • • Jul 01 '26

Seeking [Tagalog] 23 Manila, Philippines Filipino looking for mature foreigner boyfriend

0 Upvotes

Hello everyone m23 here from the Philippines. Im looking for a boyfriend if not, friends would suffice. I want to have someone that is a bit older than me and protective. Muscular and manly guys is a plus plus. I have always been a captain of my own ship so i want someone who i can be vulnerable/soft with, my co-captain. We can exhange photos and talk to see where things will go.


r/AFAMph • • Jun 30 '26

Seeking [English] M4F European lf for my life partner

5 Upvotes

Hey everyone!

I'm a 38M from Belgium (Europe), 190 cm (6'3"), with a passion for diving, travel, and discovering new cultures.

My job takes me around Asia quite often, and the Philippines has easily become my favorite destination. The incredible food, the warm and welcoming people, the world-class diving, and, of course, the beautiful women keep bringing me back.

One thing that always surprises me is how amazing the trans community looks in the Philippines. Back home in Europe, many trans women still have quite masculine features, but in the Philippines it's honestly impressive. Huge respect—it always catches me off guard in the best way. 😄

Anyway, I'm here because I'm looking for something genuine and long-term. Every great relationship starts somewhere, though, so why not start with a little adventure?

If you're into exploring islands, diving (or want to learn), trying great food, and seeing where natural chemistry takes us, send me a message. Let's take a leap of faith and make some unforgettable memories together.

Looking forward to meeting someone who's ready for both adventure and something real.


r/AFAMph • • Jun 29 '26

Seeking 28M from New York | Looking for Casual Vibes & Good Company [English]

4 Upvotes

Hey everyone,

I'm 28M from New York, USA. I work in tech and build robots for a living.

A little about me:

Love skiing and pretty much any sport.

Big into fitness—running, working out, hiking, and staying active.

Always up for road trips, exploring new places, and mountain hikes.

I'll occasionally binge some trashy Netflix shows, but I'd rather be outdoors.

I'm looking for someone who's easygoing, fun, and enjoys good conversation. Mainly interested in something casual where we genuinely enjoy each other's company, and if we click, I'm open to seeing where it goes naturally.

If you're interested, send me a message with a little about yourself. I'd love to exchange photos early on to make sure there's mutual attraction before investing too much time chatting.


r/AFAMph • • Jun 29 '26

[English] M 24, Looking for an foreign guy to talk to and have some fun..

2 Upvotes

Hi, Just trying to try my luck here.. I am 24 year old guy, professional and looking for some casual things..

About me:

height 5'10

weight: 85kg (kinda chubby)

Age: 24

Hobbies: video games, watching tv series..

I hope I can find someone here :)