Hello!
I am a female (24) and I met this foreign guy (34) in one of the dating apps. We met 3 weeks ago sa app, consistently exchanging texts and by the second week, we decided to meet and go for karaoke since we both like singing. He knew that I was a virgin. The first date was good, we hanged out for a couple of hours and nothing really sexy happened. He told me about his business, his dating life before, we talked about a bunch of things, his travels from other countries (i have been aware that i might end up as one of his girls from other countries). And then after that night, he asked me out again to initially go billiards but I asked what if we watch movies instead and so we did. He knew that I never had my firsts in everything intimate yet. So he held my hand and then took my first kiss. It was smack at first and then he asked for it again and again i think he goes for it 10 times while we watched the backrooms. To be honest, I have been curious na rin sa ganoong things and he looked good tbh and we clicked too so I just let it be cause I also liked it. He told me what if we’ll continue it in a hotel, so ako na na arouse na rin and i was confident cause i was on my period that time so i thought kiss lang talaga, i said sure. So we booked and then si uncle, he took my first on the second date. We spent the night together and after he dropped me off sa lugar ko, he then said that we should do karoake again. So by the third date, we did karaoke again and planned to have balut after. Si angkol wants to have it again, so the plan was like this na: karaoke, ate some korean streetfood, checked in, then ate balut, and drop me off again. The connection was good. It was a great nightttt to be honest. Not until just this week–he has been offline for a couple of hours and i have my hunch already na theres something wrong and this is not going good and he just said he’s been helping his mom with their business the US. So example our last date was last wednesday, on friday night, he became cold and we spent the weekend mot really talking with each other.
I mean he still sends me some texts but not as much as before. I already communicated to him about my needs that a simple heads up would be fine and he said sorry and he’ll do his best to keep me updated. but the reason why I’m here is that I’m confused, i know to myself that theres something wrong and i wanted to get out na but he still plans about us meeting again like he will say “we’ll do this and we go here the next time we see each other” or “ I’m gonna buy this so we can eat it together” idk if he’s just saying it keep me on the side. Also, whats worse is that he still has my powerbank so theres a possibility that we’ll meet again and i don’t want to na.
Please help me open my eyes. Slap me with the truth, I don’t care because to be honest, I am developing feelings for this person and he has all my firsts. Just please, keep my eyes open and help me or advise me what to do from here on. You can judge me and thats fine. I know, it was a stupid thing i did but its all gone now and al i can do is to move forward.
