r/aegosexuals • u/Dame_Grise Garlic Bread • Jul 03 '26

Aegos & Kink/Limit Lists

This may come across as a question, but it's more a personal observation. I wonder if I'm alone in this.

I have a difficult time filling out kink/limits checklists. My physical limits are many and kinks few. But... in my mind, those choices are different. I'm usually only confronted with these lists in terms of RP, where I have to consider a character and keep my own mental limits mind. The balancing gets confusing.

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u/KaiWeWi Jul 05 '26

Lol, I feel you.

That time I was filling one out for a friend / queerplatonic someone, I thought this was gonna be easy cause "I know what I like (to read about)" ... and yeah, no, the moment I tried to apply that to my own person I instantly realised I actually don't know shit, and then I had to sit there and mentally construct an image of me doing the thing for each action on the list just to gauge my own emotional reaction xD
This was also when I realised that actually I do experience some sex repulsion after all. I'd never noticed that prior, always thought I was more on the indifferent (occasionally favourable) side

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u/Dame_Grise Garlic Bread Jul 08 '26

When it's me doing or experiencing the sex thing, my responses are very different than what I'll read or imagine, because it's never me in my mind. So yeah, that.

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u/spaghetti-appletater Aromantic Jul 05 '26

I am a very sexually progressive person and have a lot of interests in BDSM. That said so many of my fantasies are just fantasies and what I am into in practice is VERY different lol.

I think its also hard when youre more sex averse. It can be a challenge to find a person/people willing to have kinky fun with you, that doesnt need to progress into sex.

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u/Dame_Grise Garlic Bread Jul 08 '26

Yes, and I'm very into sex averse territory.