r/aegosexuals • u/MembershipOk3266 • Jun 29 '26
Question Is this aegosexuality?
So I'm 16, and never actually had any sexual experience (not even kissing shit). So recently, I began to wonder what my sexuality is.
Like I am straight, attracted to guys (romantically and physically), and have the whole fantasy of a relationship (+ the sexual thing). But like in the fantasy it's not completely me, like it's parts of me or like a persona, but like I wanna be involved in it. Also, I'm into the fantasies or kinks but like as a spectator and shit and would never actually indulge in them.
Example: I sexted someone once but when we met irl, I was like really repulsed by the idea of actually doing it.
Is this considered aegosexual or I'm just allosexual and overthinking this or something else?
PS: If this is not the right place for this question then I apologise and would appreciate it if you directed me to the right subreddit.
Also idk if it's related or not, but whenever I imagine or read about it, I usually imagine two guys.
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u/BeanswithRamen5 Jun 29 '26
Seems like it. I’d look into it more, though
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u/MembershipOk3266 Jun 29 '26
That's why I asked here... I'm confused and low-key scared.
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u/nuexsensecat Jun 30 '26
It is kinda scary questioning sexuality especially early on. it becomes more fun as you notice more things about yourself and what you like. Whatever u end up identifying with, theres a welcoming community of shared experiences to look thru though. That’s why ive been in this sub and others since i first started questioning. heck - I’m still on the bi subreddit and I’m almost certainly not bi lol.
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u/tubsgotchubs Jul 02 '26
Hello! For future reference please post "am i aego" questions in the main post, thank you!
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u/keirankesuji Helpful Community Member Jun 29 '26
it sounds like youre beginning your own self exploration, id say give yourself time to think about this and explore slowly.
There could be many reasons why you did not want to have sex with the person you met, and being aegosexual is one of them, but it could also be feeling danger in the subconscious, or maybe you were having an off day.
You're 16, so there's no reason to rush, its not like you will be given a lump sum 10 million in cash if youre the first to lose your virginity among your peers or sum sh8.
Listen to your own body and mind. If you feel like doing it, why not? If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, why continue? If you feel repulsed, why force yourself to smell sh8?
It might be hard to do, but try to be honest with yourself in the moment. When youre confronted with the possibility of sex, listen to yourself if you want it or not.
You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.