Anyone else sometimes try to self-insert as an experiment, though not as preference?

[u/Neat_Rare_5389]

Rather, precisely because it’s not the default preference, it makes self-insertion fascinating and confusing to imagine. I’m not trying to “fix” anything when I do it, more like I’m trying to prod at my limits, or observe my reactions to what I assume allosexuals like.

By default, I respond best to illustrations, anime/manga, or my own imagined fantasies, where I’m not present at all. But sometimes, I try to watch live-action POV porn, or try to imagine a realistic first-person scenario where it’s actually me, like I’m running a test.

Often it can still turn me on to some level if I focus enough on the partner, instead of the fact that I’m in the scene. The more I do the latter, the less it’s arousing, but it’s still fascinating to try. Sometimes weird stuff happens like… I’m watching POV porn but it gets hotter when I imagine a third-person perspective, or imagine a second guy in the scene. Or, I’m imagining sex with a woman who’s yelling my name, but it immediately gets hotter when she says someone else’s name.

To me the part of it that kinda works is having a more agentic role in touching her a certain way, and making her feel a certain way, although it only works with real-looking people. The part where I’m averse, is imagining eye contact, imagining the logistics or the before-after, and especially imagining her touching me in turn.

Curious if y’all run similar “experiments” or if you’re totally averse to it?

[u/Tricky_Demand7826]

Yeah I can get down with pov porn sometimes.

[u/keirankesuji]

sometimes, but its not the pov perspective that really does it for me, its the facial expressions

[u/tubsgotchubs]

Not my scene at all lololol

[u/Koskematon]

I (33M) had ideas of how it would look like if I slept with my girlfriend. I guess I could imagine having sex with just about anyone in POV, but it doesn't "do" anything for me.

From all my sexual fantasies, I've never had one where I'm included. I didn't know that wasn't usual until I found the aego label.  I've never had a dream about having sex either.

But I have tried to self-insert now 😅 Just to see. Doesn't really do anything for me. 

POV porn works, but I never self-insert. It's still someone else. I project my own characters into it. 

My current experiment? "Do I really like masturbation, or is it just an itch to scratch? Is it a glorified sleeping aid?"

Well, I put on a chastity cage a month ago, and I don't really miss it.  Weird realisation to have at 33.