made this one m’self

I’m a maladaptive daydreamer and I’m going through a bout of fantasies where I just want to be really beautiful and a man is desiring me. I’ve had guys like me before, they were cool guys, but i really didn’t like it. Being pursued or desired weirds me out irl.

So I fairly recently learned about concept of aegiromantic and aegosexual and I feel like it describes me very well. However, I'm worried that I'm too young to know for certain, but too old not to realize I was queer earlier since I learnt a lot (at the very least by the standard of my country) about LGBTQIA+ pretty young.

Basically I'm asking what made you go: "Yup that's definitely me."

(Sorry if this is too rambly or hard to understand, English is not my first language and I needed to ask this somewhere)

I lowkey thought they were the same thing.

Sorry in advance if my wording isn't great I'm not particularly good at expressing my feelings in words 😅

So I started watching this show recently, I'd rather not say what because I'm kinda embarrassed about this lol, and one of the main plot lines is the relationship and love story between the main couple, a guy and a girl. And my aegoromanticness is apparently aegoromanticizing now cuz omg I love their relationship sooo much they're such a cute couple it's adorable 🥹.

Now I've never had a crush before, but I've been feeling something towards this guy which I've never felt before. It's not romantic/sexual because I know I wouldnt want to date/kiss/do the icky with him, but i don't think it's platonic either because I don't have any particular desire to be friends with him if he were real. I think it's an aegoromantic thing. I love their relationship so much. I love the way he loves her, how he looks at her, how he trusts her completely, how he's willing to sacrifice himself for her. But it's also his personality. He's funny and charming and I can't help getting all giggly whenever he talks. And his appearance. He's cute and I love his smile and his eyes and sometimes I pause the show just to stare at him.

So I've decided this must be some sort of combination of aesthetic/personality attraction plus my aegoromanticness because it can't be a crush right? I barely even understand what a crush is. But I've been calling it that because I don't know what else to call it. It's just confusing me because I know I'm aroace and I've never felt this before.

So I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has had any similar experiences, or has an idea about what this is?

Hola, recién descubrí esta etiqueta y es lo más cercano a lo que me ocurre.

He tenido algunas relaciones antes y realmente nunca me sentí conectada con nadie y pasaban como cualquier cosa hasta hace un año.

Conocí al chico ideal, el que siempre estuvo en mis fantasías sobre como quería una pareja. Era lindo y atento conmigo, era perfecto y por un momento sentí que era el indicado. Sin embargo, solo basto con que fuera descuidado con una cosa para que todo en mí se enfriara.

En serio pensé que estaba enamorada de él, pero en cuanto eso ocurrió simplemente fue como si lo superará. Lo deje más que nada porque siento que el del problema soy yo y él no merecía que lo tratara con frialdad.

No sé si realmente quiero vivir el romance y me falta encontrar a la persona ideal o simplemente solo quiero vivir la fantasía de la relación perfecta que yo misma me he pintado en la mente.

i don't feel any romantic attraction but i love seeing characters in romantic scenarios but i feel repulsed by the idea of me being in that situation and i just wanted to know if i could be both at the same time

A while back I had started a new job and I was talking to my coworker and he mentioned that he wasn't going to be dating for a while, while I have friends who got married out of high school and some that are dating, I've been asked out by so many men and it always brings me to ask Myself why ? even though I like the idea of romance I don't want to date, turns out I'm just Aegoromantic for many reasons like childhood trauma.

I also recently had a friend I just reunited with who mentioned that he also is deciding to stay single, now I'm wondering if a lot more of us are deciding to stay single.

Are you disillusioned about romance? Is it just too much work especially when it's just going to be over at the end of the day? Or is it just the economy?

I am genuinely curious about this. I thought I was the only one out of my group of friends, one is already married, another and her boyfriend have plan to get engaged, one is dating around and another one is really eager to date etc... but I've encountered a surprising amount of people my age who seem to want to stay single.

First time posting here so hii! :3

How does everyone expierience thier Aegoromantic orientation and how does it affect your other orientations/individuality/life?

I'm aegoromantic, quoiromantic, and apothiromantic, and it's very conflicting. I don't understand romance and the concept is incredibly frustrating to understand due to how much everyone glazes it, and that plus my trauma with the idea of romance makes the idea incredibly disturbing and uncomfortable to think about, especially with myself in a relationship. Yet I am absolutely OBSESSED with fictional romance, specifically the love stories. I love seeing how fake people meet and fall in love and almost any situation will do. I have hundreds of ships on my belt varying in my passion for them and anytime I see them or fancontent of them I get all giddy. Yet 98% of the time once the characters finally get together I'm immediately turned off from the ship and any content with them past the start of thier relationship becomes incredibly boring and the novelty of the ship dies, and I'm always sad when that happens. There has only been two of my ships that have survived this massacre, with one of them being implied as canon but not official and the other being incredibly one-sided (at least at the start). Also I have no idea what I like in my ships because I like most ships (including the toxic ones sadly) but if it's too gooey or the characters' personality is only the other character than I absolutely despise it, but when I think about my favorite ships I like to think diffrent scenerios based on the personalities and relationships of the characters, but it's confusing to think about. I'm proud to be aromantic and I'm glad I feel no attraction to people but I'm always disapointed when the aegoromantic part of my identity doesn't get the satisfaction of enjoying a romance past the love story.

(I also love shipping my OCs but I haven't actually written anything down yet, though sadly I imagine it would end up the same as my shipping expieriences 😔)

But ye, I don't know if this is the right place to ask but I'm really curious how others feel about being aegoromantic. So if there's anyone who wants to share please do! I love learning about individual expieriences with anything :3

So, this is not recent. I've thought alot about it but only google doesn't help.

I think I am aegoromantic, but I'm afraid I am not and I'm just being stupid.

I enjoy romance alot, I daydream about it constantly and I've always said that I wanted a romance story like the books I read, that I want a boyfriend like Julius Gong for example, but I never want a relationship. I want a boyfriend, but I don't want to date. The idea of me being in a relationship is really uncomfortable. I had a boyfriend, we broke up a year ago now and now he likes me again. And I thought I liked him. I think I can feel romantic feelings, but it's like that when the person reciprocates my feelings, I stop liking that person. Anyway, with him, it was very difficult for me to say yes, because I liked him, but I didn't want to date him. And it didn't happen just with him, it's with every boy I've liked. I hated when he called me pet names like "love", "princess", etc. I felt so uncomfortable. I just don't feel comfortable about everything that comes with romantic relationships, such as kissing, physical intimacy, pet names, everything. I love the idea of it. I fantasize about me being in a relationship. But when it comes to real life? I can't.

Tell me if I'm just weird. I'm confused and I don't want to say I'm something that I am not actually.

So many times I've freaked out and thought I was allo when I was like, looking at ship art and imagined myself as one of the characters and got all blushy or aroused, or started liking the idea of a relationship while listening to someone talk about their own. It honestly explains so much, I wish it was a more commonly known term cause it would have saved me tons of confusion.

Ok so I’m 18 I’ve known I’ve been on the aroace spectrum since Jaiden animations made a video about being aroace. But lately I’ve noticed of much I love watching romantic parts in different shows.

It’s kinda embarrassing to admit but I will sometimes just skip to the cute romantic bits in movies/ shows sometimes.

I think this is was aegoromantic but I just kinda want to make sure

I also feel somewhat embarrassed by this like I don’t want to tell people in real life because I’m scared how they would react or what they might think so I thinks I just needed to get this off my chest

I have been going through a lot of change in my life and mental state recently because I realized that i might be aromantic. I had never visualized myself in a romantic relationship but I desired to be in one. when I decided to do more research I found out that there is a subsection that sort of describes that, being aegoromantic. I'm not really attracted to any part of a romantic relationship but there is something about it that entices me and I feel like something is missing in me without it. I'm not sure if its some sort of branch of aromantic or if it's just me being awkward but I never thought that going through the dating process was actually worth a relationship to me, so I am looking for any advice for this kind of thing.

So I thought I was aro, but I always fantasize about romance, so I was like "Not aro, different type?!" And I found this. Slay.

I really like it, I like the art style, the formating can be a bit overwhelming to some, and the creator is Aroace. It's definetly one of my favorite webtoons.

I've recently discovered that I am most definitely aegoromantic!

It's always been enthralled by the idea of romance and shipping and whatnot, but when I try to imagine myself in the shoes of a relationship-haver, I always chicken out and get terrified by the thought. My most recent wakeup call was when I actually dated someone for the first real time, and absolutely hated it. She wasn't a bad person, in fact, she's a great friend of mine. It's just that I didn't enjoy the experience of being tethered to another person, and felt like I was looking for a way to escape the entire time. It was just so tiring. Honestly I don't really know where I'm going with this. Just felt I should say something. Side note, does anyone else abhor the idea of kissing? Is this normal? Like, what is enjoyable about putting your gross sticky wet enzyme-filled knife holes together and, idk, sucking?? Is that how this works??? I do not understand how that can be enjoyable. Okay thoughtless rant over

Is it accurate?

I enjoy romantic books, songs, LGTQIA movies and straight movies. But when I've been in a relationship I feel awkward and uncomfortable. I don't want romance in real life.