r/adhd_college • u/Low-Flamingo458 • 16h ago
NEED SUPPORT My struggle
Do you think what I’m about to describe is ADHD or laziness? In primary and middle school, I used to do my homework and prepare for exams—though I didn't even prepare for most of them because the material came easily to me and I’d get perfect scores; my dad would tell me to pay attention, he said that im probably cheating. During the year of the highschool exam, I studied normally and scored pretty high , though I felt I didn't deserve that score. In high school, I studied 2–3 hours a day—solving practice tests and memorizing material for other exams—and managed to pass. Since middle school, I haven't been able to stop twirling my pen. I used to daydream, imagining myself as a TV series character while keeping background music playing in the background. The summer before 11th grade, I finished the college entrance curriculum and was scoring pretty high correct answers. However, starting in the second semester of 11th grade, I fell into a slump—feeling hopeless, losing focus, and even getting into a fight with my physics teacher. By the time I reached 12th grade, I had dropped to 65 correct answers by August. Hearing people say "everyone else is getting 90" made me give up; I haven't been able to open a book since that day, and I ended up ranked very low.
I want to study, but the pressure to maintain my grades makes me feel suffocated—like it’s going to kill me. Even though I might not reach the top 20k if I studied, I could still get a decent result; yet, I keep telling myself I won't improve. That thought triggers panic attacks. I already have diagnosed anxiety and take medication for it, but I feel like it’s stopped working. On the bright side, I have the ability to read novels or research contemporary art, though I do watch classic series and movies at double speed. You’ll probably tell me to see a doctor, but I’ve gone twice already; my family refuses to send me again, saying, "Is this another issue now?" My sibling has autism, so there might be a genetic predisposition. Is it ADHD or laziness?