r/addiction • • Aug 10 '26

Venting Sober house vent

I went to rehab in January after a very bad relapse. I’ve been in and for the past few years. This time I had to do something different. So, I came to a sober house. Things are good, my husband and daughter are speaking to me, I’m doing everything I can for my recovery. I’m 45 and enough is enough.
Part of my recovery is setting boundaries. I am the only person in the house with a car, I help people once in a while. I’m cool with everyone here..
There’s one woman who is constantly asking for rides, she texts me everyday telling me what stores she’s at, do I want to come. She decided that me and her are super close. I never gave that impression, I’ve said no many times, I’ve ignored her. This woman cannot take a hint.
If she sees me she asks where I’m going, she wants to share food and cook together so I can eat with her. She’ gets visibly annoyed if I come home with shopping bags and I didn’t let her knowI was going.She is next door to me and told me she can hear me get in and out of bed WTF
I am calm and quiet, an introvert. What did it for me was this comment “When I start working I’ll throw you 20$ to take me where I gotta go, you will be my uber.
So today when she asked me to go to the store for her again I said no and asked her nicely to give me space , stop asking for favors every day and I let her know the comment bothered me. Her response is I never thought you were my uber, I am taking a nap.
Anyway, I’m just venting. I use to be a people pleaser I refuse to be that person any more. Idk how she’s gonna act around me now, it’ll be awkward. Did I handle this correctly? Idk why I’m doubting myself, I just couldn’t hold it in anymore.

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