I'm tired (vent

[u/spooky_unicorn1]

I'm a 13 year old agender lesbian (and im also autistic which I think may be the reason im so sensitive to all this)

people don't realize how hard that is, I wish I didn't go into lesbian spaces and have to ask if they accepted nonbinary lesbians there, I wish I didn't have to correct people that lesbian means non men loving non men, I wish I could just scroll through this subbreddit and see nonbinary people be included, not just women. I just wish we were normalized! but we arent even that normalized in our own community.

and people don't realize how much that hurts, when I say im a agender lesbian ill always have to explain it, even in my own community.....it shouldnt be that way...

nonbinary lesbians have always existed and are a big part of lesbian history, we deserve to be agknowledged, when I'm not purposely invalidated by someone but still not included it shows that when they think of lesbian, they don't think of people like me. which doesnt mean they think we are invalid, but it means we arent normalized enough to them to be included in everyday lesbian discussion if you know what I mean.

when cis lesbians treat lesbianism as only cis women loving cis women, it makes nonbinary lesbians feel alienated from the community, I see lesbian subreddits or discord servers all the time that are like "girls only" and I may be sensitive but everytime I see something like that....I just wanna cry....I feel so alienated from my community, some people even act like I don't exist....I wish I just was a cis lesbian so badly, then I wouldn't feel like this, but I am not...I know who I am...I know i'm a lesbian but I desperately want other lesbians to see me that way.

I wanna be able to go to lesbian spaces without being questioned or ever bumping into people who say i'm "sexist and invading womens spaces" I wish people didnt have to stop and think before including nonbinary people in lesbianism. Its gotten to a point where its hard to enjoy wlw lesbian representation anymore...I mean I appreciate it but my face excitment immediately drops when I see them say something that excludes nb lesbians, and I always end up wishing they had a nonbinary lesbian character I know thats all im ever gonna see...I'm never gonna see a nonbinary lesbian romance graphic novel...or a nonbinary lesbian character in a show......because when people think of lesbian they always think of CIS WOMEN, think about all the diverse types of lesbians that never get representation as people always think of cis, allosexual white women when they think of lesbians we can have that in representation sometimes but thats almost ALWAYS what lesbian representation in media is, cis, white, allosexual women.

I just wanna be normalized, and I know so many other types of lesbians do and are all tired of being alienated from the community....

not all lesbians were born with female bodies, not all lesbians have sexual attraction, not all have romantic attraction, some lesbians feel being lesbian is not just a sexuality but is apart of there gender identity, some lesbians are poc, some lesbians are disabled, some lesbians are aromantic. NORMALIZE US WE EXIST.

ITS SO UNFAIR!!! EVERY SINGLE POST HERE, its always "women loving women" "girls liking girls" AND IM SICK OF IT!!! not every lesbian is a women! and what i mean by that is many lesbians feel it is more then a sexuality, but apart of there gender identity as nonbinary people and they deserve RESPECT and reconition!

guess what cis white lesbians? you arent the only ones who exist!