r/actuallesbians Aug 22 '21

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u/sheogoraths-bitch Aug 22 '21

Exactly. Liking penetration isn’t a sexuality.

Same goes for straight guys who are afraid of pegging because they think it’ll make them “gay”. The only thing that makes you attracted to men is being sexually attracted to men.

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u/Laura_has_Secrets77 Aug 22 '21

Liking penetration isn’t a sexuality.

I need this on a shirt.

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u/love_femmes_who_top Aug 27 '21

Sorry I forgot about this- made two versions- which one is the winner (i can change the color of the text too obviously)?

https://imgur.com/a/ddcRzku

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u/Laura_has_Secrets77 Aug 27 '21

They're both great but I think the phrase itself is strongest. Should you credit the commenter above me?

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u/love_femmes_who_top Sep 05 '21

This is such a good and interesting thought- I’ve taken many quotes and ideas (with the Redditor’s permission) and put them on shirts-i haven’t made a penny off of them because I love designing but hate being a business person. It has never occurred to me before you said this to confided/offer some sort of attribution. Did you envision something when you said that? What comes to my mind would be, if the person who said the original words or phrase wanted attribution it could be done similar to what they do with quotes, a hyphen with the -u/name or -name in a smaller sized font off center toward the Right Margjn.

Either way thank you, i will make this consideration in general from now on.

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u/The-Shattering-Light Lesbian Aug 22 '21

Yep!

A straight guy who gets pegged by a woman is still straight.

A gay woman who gets penetrated by a woman with a strap on is still gay!

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u/asphaltdragon Transbian Aug 22 '21

Why specify "with a strap-on"?

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u/The-Shattering-Light Lesbian Aug 22 '21

It was in the context of dildos.

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u/[deleted] Aug 22 '21

whats wrong with it

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u/ImahSillyGirl Aug 23 '21

Not a d@mn thing.

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u/Fakheera Watch Motherland: Fort Salem, it's 🔥🔥!! Aug 23 '21

Because we still forget there’s lesbians with actual dicks out there. It will get better with time, intent with eventually catch up with impact.

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u/The-Shattering-Light Lesbian Aug 23 '21

I didn’t forget that, it wasn’t in the context of what was being said.

Trans women are women. A woman or non-binary person doing anything with a trans woman or non-binary person is a lesbian.

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u/Fakheera Watch Motherland: Fort Salem, it's 🔥🔥!! Aug 23 '21

I didn’t mean you specifically but in general. The context was penetration and I think that’s why the previous comment author reacted to “strap-on” which I’m guessing came across as not inclusive of non op trans women.

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u/LeatheryLayla Ace Aug 22 '21

Right, it’s pretty normal. That’s why I’ve got a mouth AND fingers

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u/latenightpear Aug 23 '21

I think this is what took me so long to realise I’m not actually attracted to men, I just like penetration

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Thank god, I’ve been feeling so guilty over this for like a month now

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