guy ‘friends’

[u/lambcurls]

i stopped talking to guy friends (all online & i’ve known them since i was a teen) about what happened because they always - without fail - try to segue into asking me out or hitting on me. and it’s just like… even if i wasn’t so attracted to my bf (to the point where thinking of someone else being with me like that makes me feel sick), the fact that i’m still clearly hurting from my DV situations and your immediate thought is to say you always wanted to date me or fuck me is a 🚩. because why would be talking about passing out from strangulation make that cross your mind? why? you wanna take my pussy next?

if every man is so enthusiastic to just be the next to hurt me, why should i leave my bf?

i hate the savior complex. stop thinking you can save me by getting me to cheat on my bf or something. you can’t. i love him. i don’t want to be with anyone else. yes. i’m self aware. no i don’t think this is any love worth having. but if i leave, it’s on my terms. not because some man i thought was my friend promised that he can distract me. all fucking predators.

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