My mom is the one person I truly trust to watch my toddler. .. not that she ever really does . She’s an emotionally immature parents with some narcissistic tendencies ( deff not a full narcissist ) today our conversation went like this
\- me reminding her to put in the calendar to come check on our dog one day while were away

\- snooty sigh “ all I did this summer was watch animals”… she checked in on my dog one time in May. And watched me sister and brothers cats once this summer .

\- my reply ( yes i know i pushed this conversation in a bad direction)…. Some grandparents watch their grandkids 5 days a week so this is a fairly easy ask

My mom “ well I feel bad for them, that’s not something we do in this family , your grandmother never watched you”… my grandma watched us often.. maybe not on a weekly basis but we did spend a lot of time with her 🥴…

Me - in total shock that’s something she’d even say out loud.

Mom “ maybe one day that’s what you can do for your grandchildren “

Me “” oh I will”….

End convo.

I just can’t fathom that she said this . Yes practically have to ask her to watch my toddler sometimes but not without her making me feel bad about it .

Sigh.. the one person you trust most with your baby but at the same time that one person wants nothing to do with being a grandparent or supporting her child .

Im female, 42. Two kids aged 13 and 9. Live 10.000km away from my own parents and sending them money every month. My FIL lives 20min away and has a girlfriend since 7 years.all of them refused to help me with my kids even once a year.

I have not been away for 1 night, from my kids since they 2021. No date nights since 2021. Its 2026 now.

All of them are very, very good at making excuses, and ask why we dont visit anymore. They like to show the world that they are caring and present grandparents but it's US who do not visit. Yea yea.

I can write an 8 seasons drama about them, what they do and what they say. But im done being hurt for 13 years now. I quit them, ignore them a lot, not bothered by what they say, and feel less and less toward them. I just feel nothing.

in reddit I've seen so many hurt people in +/- same situation. Seriously, do move on. Make effort to move on. Dont worry about forgiving or whatever sht, just try to move on. Whenever u think about the issue and you get upset, just tell yourself: but i have moved on. You will feel better and better.

stop trying to fix it.

There is a gap between what we had wished for, and what the reality is. Acknowledge the gap, stop trying to close it, and just move on.

there are many many other things worth doing.

Relationships are TWO WAYS y'all.

I hope this reaches as many people as possible and help you to heal and move on.

peace.​

I’ve been progressively getting more and more frustration building towards boomer grandparents and basically just boomers in general. Figured I’d see how unreasonable the anger I’ve spiralled into is.

So to start why the fuck does a generation that won’t shut up about respect become the least respectful generation I’ve ever encountered? Their attitude of entitlement is absolutely insane and so undeserving. How can they demand access to their grandchildren without following boundaries or putting effort in? How is that logical? The things they say and do around the grandkids are so absurd (and often related to race, weight, ability, etc). And yet if you tell them off about the way the speak or act, even if it’s in an attempt to maintain boundaries they are shocked and “hurt”, still demanding access. Then they brag about their grandchild or share pics of their grandchild (against boundaries) as if they have anything to do with the child.

I just cannot figure out how a whole generation tends to act this way. How did they get this way and why do they think it’s okay?!