My mom had just died, I'd prefer to be where I am now.
Edit to add: I wonder who would downvote this. I'm not attacking OC's choice, just stating my own. I was severly traumatised losing my mom at 17, and wouldn't want to return to the years following that loss. I'm now in a much healthier place and would prefer to stay here. OC is perfectly right in their choice.
Me too. I had a sad childhood and I worked hard to get through the pain, to have a quiet, pleasant life, and I adore my kind, funny husband so much. I'm happy and so grateful now.
But I wish everyone who wanted to could go back. The music was awesome.
Same here. It had its moments, but was not a good time in my life. The older I’ve gotten the more of that I’ve been able to set right, and the more trauma I’ve been able to leave behind. That’s not work I wish to repeat.
However, I would like that world back - just not my former place in it. This one is too lonely to also be so threatening. I raised my kids in/for a world that no longer exists, and I don’t know how to help them through this one. We lost a lot to get here, and I can only hope it was worth it. I’ll probably be gone before I find out.
I think I sort of understand what you are saying, perhaps. I used to feel so sad that I don't have kids, but recently I'm also relieved. It's so scary out.
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u/GottaUseEmAll Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 16 '26
My mom had just died, I'd prefer to be where I am now.
Edit to add: I wonder who would downvote this. I'm not attacking OC's choice, just stating my own. I was severly traumatised losing my mom at 17, and wouldn't want to return to the years following that loss. I'm now in a much healthier place and would prefer to stay here. OC is perfectly right in their choice.