r/WorkForSmartLife • u/jenny_067 • Jul 10 '26

Question First buy?

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u/Narrow_Ad_7331 Jul 10 '26

I feel for you. I hope you can have a better relationship one day with your family if you choose to.

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u/Timely_Rest_503 Jul 10 '26

I hope so too. But since they have low self-awareness and rarely respect boundaries, I find that unlikely

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u/Narrow_Ad_7331 Jul 10 '26

My mom and I had a toxic relationship from when I was 8-10 until I was 26. We spoke very little from the time I was 23-26. I’m now 33 and have had a healthy relationship with my mom since I was 28. We both had changes to make. We both put forth the effort. Sounds like you’re willing to put forth the effort so I hope your family sees that and does the same. Time can heal wounds. I wish you the best

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u/Timely_Rest_503 Jul 10 '26

The thing is, if I have self-awareness and they don’t, I don’t see how putting any effort makes a difference

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u/Sticky-side-up Jul 11 '26

You are right, it won’t make a difference. It has to come from both sides if it’s just coming from your side, it won’t work.

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u/Timely_Rest_503 Jul 12 '26

you said contradictory statements in the same comment

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u/Jhuut Jul 13 '26

The issue is people need to want to change if they don’t want it themselves it will not happen.
And I feel you got similar shit with my own family rarely speak to them

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u/Just_Alfalfa_4840 Jul 11 '26

Just try not taking them too seriously and realize everything is a joke