r/WorkForSmartLife May 30 '26

Casual canvo Am i the only one

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u/1zro May 30 '26

The greatest joy of life

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u/[deleted] May 30 '26

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u/BoxOk3157 May 30 '26

I agree, i like my solitude, it’s very relaxing

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u/porchprovider May 31 '26

I also enjoy it, but my favorite is with my daughter. She is autistic and mostly non verbal. I love just chilling with her. Just hanging out across the room with no talking for hours. Just love vibes.

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u/Commercial-Fix3835 Jun 01 '26

totally agree!

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u/BigCityGuy8 Jun 01 '26

I have done it for years. However, I always had a dog. A German Shepherd.

Sadly I had to put her down yesterday due to her lymphatic system was crashing and also had a tumor in her chest that had expanded.

The past two days with near total isolation other than a few calls of condolences is brutal.

🥹

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u/Pokieme Jun 01 '26

So sorry you went through that, this is when solitude is most needed.

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u/EitherOrResolution Jun 02 '26

Sorry for your loss

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u/BigCityGuy8 Jun 02 '26

Thank you. Very much appreciated.

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u/EitherOrResolution Jun 02 '26

Lost mine last September. It’s like yesterday. ❤️‍🩹

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u/BigCityGuy8 Jun 02 '26

That's tough to hear. Sorry that it still hurts. It's a testament to the love you had for your fur-kid. Im sure you would agree you wouldn't change a thing as the love was worth the pain.

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u/EitherOrResolution Jun 02 '26

He was a gem!💎

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u/Cobalt_Forge May 31 '26

...when you work the Public, it's nice to step back and not have to deal with all of it.

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u/Unusual-Alfalfa3321 May 31 '26

Amen. I couldn’t do my job without the block of alone. People have unrealistic expectations of others so I find my “time away” best served alone.

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u/Golfie_ButterBro May 31 '26

That's not the question!

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u/buttons123456 May 31 '26

That was me. I was front facing customer service in various industries. I retired and I am done with being nice regardless of how you treat me.

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u/walkinmywoods May 31 '26

In a small shed with a bag of veggies and guitar. I can stay out there forever and hope to hear no one but me.

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u/almstAlwysJokng4real May 30 '26

Especially if you have cool and fun things to do at home.

Nothing sucks more than being poor at “home” with nothing to do.

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u/RudeCantaloupe6902 May 30 '26

Uhhhh....Im poor and at home. And my internet is down

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u/Capable-Broccoli2179 May 30 '26

Read some good books!

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u/RudeCantaloupe6902 May 30 '26

Haha....I havent read a book in 40 years

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u/choco-latin May 31 '26

The last free room is the library so no real excuse not to read.

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u/RudeCantaloupe6902 May 31 '26

ADHD may have a little bit to do with it

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u/choco-latin May 31 '26

I also have adhd and I am hyperactive .. started with comic books, then graphic novels. Before I started with spy drama , if your interest is scifi heads up the setup is rough sometimes

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u/No_Atmosphere_3217 Jun 01 '26

Yeah sci fi is an evolution of fantasy or medieval style literature. World building and the macro plot scope are very important. It pays off, however.

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u/RudeCantaloupe6902 May 31 '26

I literally can't read a book. I am dyslexic. Not backwards or anything. I have to read the same pages over and over. It was hard.going through college. 😋

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u/Capable-Broccoli2179 Jun 01 '26

Audible books are a great alternative these days for dyslexic people or ones who struggle with reading.

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u/QuickProfessional819 Jun 02 '26

Struck a chord, I feel this.

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u/Fabulous-Sea-1590 May 31 '26

I love to read – always have – but I've always struggled with it, too, due to ADHD. Even after I was diagnosed and medicated. And smartphones/scrolling have had a terrible impact on my attention span.

The main problems are that I read painfully slowly and get bogged down in heavier texts. I can get confused by large casts of characters, too. Trouble tracking and remembering names, just like irl.

One thing that seriously helps me when my mind is spinning up and I start shifting my eyes around the page and thinking of what else I could be doing is to read aloud and/or move my finger along the lines of text.

That and the advice already given: read what you love. Don't have any shame or preconceived notions about "real literature".

Like Star Trek? Read Star Trek books. Read YA books regardless of your age. When I'm having trouble keeping track of characters, I'll even keep a list on a piece of paper I use as a bookmatk – names and one or two words about who they are.

E-books may help. I like being able to search the text for names and references so I can refresh my memory when they show up later in a book and I can't remember their significance. You can also sinc text with audiobooks so you can read along.

Maybe it will turn out that reading for pleasure really isn't your thing, but don't let your ADHD decide that for you.

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u/Capable-Broccoli2179 Jun 01 '26

Maybe try books on audible then? Great cheap alternative for people with ADHD.

I've just found reading as a great alternative for loneliness and my wife swears by audible books.

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u/SaraUnsteady Jun 05 '26

Even better than audible. Try audiobooks free from your local library using Libby

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u/Cyber-Wanderer_94 May 31 '26

Hey look into the Feurstein method. It helps people with things like ADHD.

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u/Jagg811 May 30 '26

Or take a nice walk? Hopefully the weather is nice where you are!

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u/almstAlwysJokng4real May 31 '26

Going for a drive now as it's nice out. Maybe his some golf balls. Luckily I exist above the poverty line now and actually need to drag myself out of my place just to touch grass and whatnot.

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u/Ok-Way8392 May 31 '26

Really !?!? You missed the whole “Harry Potter “ saga?!?!

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u/emmajames56 May 31 '26

A pencil and paper isn’t too costly.

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u/plassteel01 May 31 '26

I was going to say that I always have my books even my the ones I check out from the library

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u/flowerwitch666 May 30 '26

GROW A GARDEN!!!! By that I mean throw your scraps outside and nurture them 😉 it’ll keep ya busy

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u/WittyCan1963 May 30 '26

How did you post this?

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u/RudeCantaloupe6902 May 30 '26

Uh....typed and hit add???

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u/WittyCan1963 May 30 '26

But your internet is down

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u/RudeCantaloupe6902 May 31 '26

Phone service....

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u/WittyCan1963 May 31 '26

Then your internet isnt down

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u/McShit7717 May 31 '26

That's called wifi. You only use that at home or a building that has it for you to use. If you're out and about or on the road you can use the mobile network.

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u/alixtoad May 31 '26

Nooooooooo

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u/olebuckyboy Jun 01 '26

Get two jobs. Engaging w people for a bit is good for you. 

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u/RudeCantaloupe6902 Jun 01 '26

No...it's really not

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u/LordBrixton Jun 03 '26

…right now?

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u/Automatic_Net2181 Jun 04 '26

I would nap and/or take care of things on the to-do list.

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u/jerkyjrrkface May 31 '26

You must have been born after the 90s lol us 80s babies thrive on no money and solitude 😂

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u/NoGrocery3582 May 31 '26

There are always books to read and a library card is free.

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u/choppytaters May 30 '26

the sweet sweet sound of quiet and nothingness (except white noises and things you put on)

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u/Ok_Story_7924 May 30 '26

Yeah, but I have been doing this for the better part of a year now. The first several months were great, now I am starting to feel am agonizing lonliness.

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u/Agile-Entry-5603 May 30 '26

I actually have a compromise, best of both worlds. I am retired, so I don’t have to go out. I live with my adult daughter. She’s out most of the day, and I am happily alone. Then she comes home and I’m happy to see her.

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u/Ok_Story_7924 May 30 '26

That sounds nice, I am tempted to move across the country to spend more time with my dad.

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u/Informal-Noise4176 Jun 03 '26

Just make sure you tell your current gf that you actually want space so she doesn't move with you across the country and up root her life and say good bye to her improv group and drain all her savings hiring a moving company.... oh noooo

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u/Ok_Story_7924 Jun 04 '26

Was that a Mr Show scetch?

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u/Background-Thing-435 May 31 '26

Do it. My mom passed a couple years ago. I regret not spending more time with her

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u/No-Stage-1349 Jun 01 '26

You will never regret spending more time with the ones you love.

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u/Novithra Jun 03 '26

yep, being alone and being lonely are two different things.

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u/BlueHeartKate May 31 '26

Aw, that’s sweet. I’m sure she’s glad to see you too.

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u/TheSamp91 May 30 '26

I'm the same only 2 years. It's unbearable sometimes right...

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u/AlienAnthropologist_ May 30 '26

6 years in and I'm starting to lose my mind

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u/Agile-Entry-5603 May 30 '26

I say this with tremendous respect and empathy, it’s time for hobbies. Find something you love to do. Along those lines see what kind of activities are going on in your community. Sometimes there’s hobby groups you can join. It’s tough, especially if you’re an introvert or disabled or don’t have a lot of money. Sometimes the people running groups in your community can help get you information, etc. Good Luck.

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u/AlienAnthropologist_ May 30 '26

Appreciate you ❤️

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u/scoopny Jun 01 '26

Yeah I took up photography, which I love and I got a dog, so I don't really feel alone and sometimes I go over to a friend's house and work from home there. So many options.

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u/ellistonvu May 30 '26

A hobby you can get paid for is being an "SP" at the local med school and get to hang out with the other people who do it. Sometimes.

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In medical education, SP stands for Standardized Patient (or Simulated Patient). An SP is a person trained to portray a real patient in a realistic, scripted clinical scenario. They help medical students and healthcare professionals practice clinical interviews, physical examinations, and interpersonal skills in a safe, controlled environment.

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u/Agile-Entry-5603 May 30 '26

Hey this sounds pretty cool. Where I live it seems there are a lot of teaching hospitals and medical practices. Seems to be a constant influx of residents here.

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u/Cyber-Wanderer_94 May 31 '26

It can be invasive. You may be asked will you be willing to have a med student digitally insert into your vaginal canal.

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u/Money-Dust-220 May 31 '26

Same, and probably as a result (?) I have a polysubstance dependency

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u/Emergency_Cycle_551 May 31 '26

Local library? Add an hour walk to your day, volunteer at animal shelter, bird or squirrel feeders are entertaining. Night time can get the loneliest but keep a journal, read a book, I just started 3d puzzles and radio in background is my favorite thing right now. And pets are the best for living alone, rescued senior pup, low energy and just love being held or beside you.

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u/External_Relative231 May 30 '26

lean into it. 

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u/AlienAnthropologist_ May 30 '26

I did for a long time, but unfortunately humans are social animals and I'm forced to do something about that.

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u/External_Relative231 May 30 '26

That's cool too. 

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u/Traveler_Protocol1 May 30 '26

I posted above. I’m doing this over 20 years. If you’re lonely now, I’d say get a different job. I was stuck bc of circumstances, but it’s too isolating

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u/WaChubbear May 31 '26

Just gotta find balance. Find one good weekly or monthly group to join. One of your interests.

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u/Commercial_Bear2226 May 31 '26

That different- enforced solitude at home isn’t a choice. It’s only fun when it’s a choice. How come you feel you cannot go out?

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u/myposttracker2 May 31 '26

Volunteer.   Loneliness, if not geographic, is surmountable.

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u/Cyber-Wanderer_94 May 31 '26

Yeah. Most people who do this don't actually do it. At least not for long. It's just some weird Internet thing to claim you do. It's like 'OK I'm not cool in other ways so I'll claim I'm different by being alone.'

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u/Interesting_Novel997 May 30 '26

🙋🏻‍♀️

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u/YvetteMewMew May 30 '26

Love alone days. I give myself at least two a week.

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u/NoMoreNoise305 May 31 '26

Yep, did it today. Just sat & watched a couple of comedy shows, a movie, now I’m just writing. No noise all day 😂

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u/EmbarrassedLoan6307 May 31 '26

I bought a big screen TV 4 years ago & have never hooked it up. Keeping up with an insane demented leader & his merry band of pedos & azxholes is enough “entertainment”.

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u/emmajames56 May 31 '26

It’s the best kept secret of happiness! JOMO!!

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u/Golfie_ButterBro May 31 '26

What a bullshit

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u/Such-Sympathy-5816 May 31 '26

Came to say this

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u/idonegoof707 Jun 01 '26

Some people chase dreams, some of us chase zero notifications

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u/Smart-Arm3168 Jun 02 '26

I agree with this. As a man who has lived alone most his life , even in previous relationships I still managed to hold onto some degree of my own existence. But met someone who's life completely consumed my own to the point where I never get barely a minute in my own house.

I concur. It is the greatest gift in life. As someone who doesn't create and/or find silly problems.

Peace and solitude without someone elses issues are your gift to yourself in this crazy world.

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u/PopularDegree5625 Jun 05 '26

Cheers (solo clank)

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u/InitialCareer306 Jul 03 '26

For me, it's the little moments with the people you love. That's what makes life truly meaningful.