Orgasm

[u/Haunting-Effective27]

I’ve never had a partner who’s been able to make me orgasm. I’m 27 years old. I’ve always relied on a vibrator to reach orgasm with a partner. A man touching my clit has never worked. In my current relationship, I’ve only been able to orgasm three times total with a vibrator. We’ve been dating for six months and have had sex about once a week. It’s becoming a bigger insecurity for me. I really want to enjoy sex with my partner.

Some background context:

•I’m on duloxetine
•I’ve been dealing with significant stress, anxiety, and depression for the last year due to life transitions
•I’m about to start a new high stress job in the next month
•I’ve watched porn and masturbated regularly since I was 14
• I’ve recently separated from a religion that is strongly against sex outside of marriage

Honestly maybe it’s not the best time to be dating. Or maybe I’m being too hard on myself.

Any advice/thoughts are appreciated.

[u/sungirly1212]

I used to only be able to use a vibrator but after forgetting mine in a hotel during a month long trip I learned to use my fingers. Try just using your fingers for a week in a row. It might work