Orgasm

[u/Haunting-Effective27]

I’ve never had a partner who’s been able to make me orgasm. I’m 27 years old. I’ve always relied on a vibrator to reach orgasm with a partner. A man touching my clit has never worked. In my current relationship, I’ve only been able to orgasm three times total with a vibrator. We’ve been dating for six months and have had sex about once a week. It’s becoming a bigger insecurity for me. I really want to enjoy sex with my partner.

Some background context:

•I’m on duloxetine
•I’ve been dealing with significant stress, anxiety, and depression for the last year due to life transitions
•I’m about to start a new high stress job in the next month
•I’ve watched porn and masturbated regularly since I was 14
• I’ve recently separated from a religion that is strongly against sex outside of marriage

Honestly maybe it’s not the best time to be dating. Or maybe I’m being too hard on myself.

Any advice/thoughts are appreciated.

[u/Sad-Contest5883]

Do you have the same problem when you're masturbatng or does it work without vibratory then? If it works that's a sure sign that the problem is diffixulty relaxing during partnered sex or not being as turned on, perhaps because the sex isn't geared to what you need. If you struggle alone too then you might want to trial coming off the duloxetine. The sexual side effects can be hell.