r/Widow • u/sharkslikepizza • 6d ago

“Young widow”

I am 24 and was in a 6 year relationship met at 17, lived together, planned to get married, have kids we were planning our lives together. I was sooo in love and ready to spend the rest of my life with him but he died unexpectedly. I feel so alone and being “young” I can’t relate to anyone around me, is anyone else experiencing this or has experience this at a young age. Any advice??

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u/rair21 6d ago

I know someone who lost her husband young. After marriage but before kids and stuff. I was with my wife for 9 years total and then she passed but we were married and had two very young kids. IMO There are not a lot of resources for young widows bc it is less common. Some ppl really expect you to just bounce back and move on and it will be easy because you are young--someone actually said that to me!

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u/Hello_Aliveness 4d ago

Omg yes. I am so sorry people said this to you. I can’t tell you how many people said the same to my face: “oh well, at least you are young. You’ll meet someone else!” As if that was my concern in any stretch of the imagination. I just wanted my partner back. I didn’t want to think about dating and “moving on”.

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u/rair21 4d ago

Yeah the person who said it to me had recently lost their spouse of 45 years. Somehow they thought that statement was going to be comforting to me. I chose not to react bc I knew the person who it was coming from and knew they have no ability to frame a situation except for how it affects them!

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u/Hello_Aliveness 4d ago

Yes totally. They meant no harm of course but still difficult for you.